Dear Bella: I am at my wit’s end so I’m writing to you to advise me how to end this situation I am in without any violence. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly four years and over that time many guys have tried to steal her away.
You wouldn’t believe the different approaches; some use the sympathy approach acting like they might jump off a cliff if they can’t have her. The main approach these snakes take though is the ‘just friends’ approach, playing nice boy, here to listen to her problems like I don’t know their intentions.
The newest one though and most amazing is this guy with the ‘leave your man for me or else’ approach. Or else meaning that he will deal with me. Now Bella I’m no coward and I’m not giving anybody the opportunity to take first chance on me either. So you’d better give me some good advice here or I’m going to beat the sh*t out of that n*gger.
On the verge
Dear Sir:
Stop acting like an ***. Why are you so insecure? Don’t you think if your woman was entertaining them she would have been led astray already? The fact that you know all these advances on your woman means that your woman is keeping you up to date or you’re following her and watching her every move.
But I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt: she is actually so trusting that she is being very open with you. With that, you should have no fear because it is obvious she wants you to trust her.
Guys will always want to take another man’s woman, but it is up to the woman to prevent that from happening, not you. Do not listen to silly threats and advances and then act on your own. If you feel threatened, then the police is there to do their jobs.
So mister stop beating up yourself and get with the programme because you may end up in prison and someone gets your girl for dinner.
Bella
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YOU GUYS ARE WATCHING TOO MUCH SOAPS.
I won’t waste my time on this comment. Sound like some immature teenager BS…GROWNUPS with real issues don’t address them that way…grow the hell up.
some men should jus learn to have respect for other men and their women, i jus think that there are a lot of beautiful girls/women out there and they should try to find one for themselves instead of tryin to take other men’s women.
also to the man who wrote this: the girl could be either makin up stories to get u angry/jelous to try to get rid of u, or she’s maybe just tired of the other men,and want u to deal with them urself… but hey..i doh know nuttin about dat i jus 14 years..so… ;)
boi boi u soundin like a b@#$% i not even goin and waste my time commenting u
@STAFFEE: some man jus think they own woman to do what they want and dnt want to commit my girl all how u get to.. pon him head do it –
Four Years with your Girl. Wasting Time,, She’s Frustrated, It’s TIME To Give Her the Ring.
The other Preys might remain Quiet!
Mr sound like a 13 year old i am not even going to waste my time
The woman is playing with you. She might be cheating and giving you these stories to make you think that she has nothing with the guys. You need to watch your woman closely because she is definitely entertaining these men. Why would a man threaten a woman to leave her man for no reason? Is it what she is saying to them about you? She is playing you for a fool.
@Mentally disturbed: lol lol great one” having for dinner” and ” having him for lunch” lol lol great ones man and so true.
If your woman is any woman she would not waste time listening to these guys, hmmm, she probably gave them her number anyway – talk about trust – She may even be making up these stories to tell you she want the ring. You shouldn’t have to fight for your woman – it’s EITHER YOU IN, OR YOU OUT – her call.
Good one Bella “you may end up in prison while someone has your girl for dinner”, might I add while someone is also having you for lunch in prison.
Man u neva heard dat song: “when ur in luv with a beautiful woman, everybody wants to take ur woman away”. Ur woman should not be entertaining these men approaches, she may show them the courtesy of hello goodbyes but that’s it.
One more thing, u may not be a coward, but u would sure end up the fool for picking a fight with a man who told ya girl he will deal with you, relax, let the man deal with u if he so chooses then u make ur move.
slap any man harrasing ur woman
very well said bella