My boyfriend of seven years has just broken the news to me that he isn’t sure what his feelings about our relationship are.
He has cheated on me constantly from the start of the relationship and although I know I should have left him long ago, I didn’t. We have one child (still a baby). He said he is not sure what he wants, not sure if he wants to be in the relationship, but he is not breaking up with me.
He said he just needs space to figure out what direction he wants his life to head in. He wants to remain close because of our child and because he says he still loves me and has no negative feelings towards me.
Should I wait to see if he still wants the relationship or should I leave? I have mixed feelings because of our child, I want him to be raised in a family that consists of mom and dad.
Besides his cheating he doesn’t treat me badly. Although I work and I am very independent he also plays a significant role financially in our household finances.
Confused
Dear Confused,
One word that keep recurring throughout your letter is the word “cheating.” Apparently it is heavy on your mind and is causing some level of distress. Cheating is the ‘great destruction’ of relationships and if he has been doing constantly, I see red flags and danger signs.
It is difficult to imagine that after seven years in a relationship and a child, your boyfriend still isn’t sure about his feeling towards you. Seven years is a long time to sift through a relationship and see whether it is workable or not. After seven years, what is he waiting for?
It is time you start thinking alternatives. Don’t let the baby hold you back. Many people have fallen into the trap of that children make relationships and that is not the case.
Bella
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u asking question but u dam well know u not going nowhere
We all know you will get angry – he will beg and cry – then you will patch up – but you just cant trust him again
This does not mean that there are no ideal relationships but please dont make your ideal expectations put yourself in intense stress because you deserve to be happy.
If you found out that your partner is cheating, here is the DRILL:
Find another partner
0) All Cheaters are EXPERT LEVEL drama kings
1) First of all CALM down and do not get angry – this one takes time so dont be hard on yourself
2) Stop spying on your partner, it is a waste of time because you already know that he is cheating then what is the point of spying
3) Dont do anything silly like making him jealous of your new boyfriend, just cutoff and stay away from him
4) Please stop expecting anything from your partner and expectations create problems
5) Stop blaming yourself or anyone else for this, as he is doing for thrill and not because of you
6) Focus on your work and finances, so that you can get attention of other genuine men
7) Give yourself time to heal get along with your friends, distract yourself
QUALITIES OF CHEATERS:
1) They are very mean, good in camouflage, drama kings, and liars
2) They will never ever ever think about your benefit or be kind to you unless they have some incentive
3) They like to do nasty things first and deal with the mess later
4) Their heart is like a hotel
5) They are very weak but appear to be strong
6) They blame you and force you to do things so that in future they can take advantage of you
7) Consider their partner low priority
QUALITIES OF NON-CHEATERS:
1) They are not mean, they are transparent, very straight forward and great personalities
2) Their mind always thinks to benefit their partner and are kind without expecting any returns
3) Extra careful by not being nasty to avoid the mess later
4) Blinded by the word love and praise it in the temple of their heart
5) They are very strong
6) They will support and help their partner so that in future their family is strong
7) Consider their partner as the top most priority
How to cut off contact with your cheater boyfriend:
1) The only reason why your cheating partner wants you to be with you is because you are a nice person. So you need to show evil side of yours, I am sure you will do good in that but do not overreact.
2) If your cheater boyfriend ask you a question, never answer correctly or give a true answer, always lie and give some vague, unrelated confusing answers and then change the topic.
3) The best way to deal with cheaters is to be very polite and very mean with them. Never be honest with them and never think anything to benefit them, this is the only language they understand. A cheaters mind cannot process honesty and they cannot understand the meaning of an ideal relationship because they dont know what it is.
4) Please make sure when you are around cheaters be very materialistic and always borrow money from them and show them how mean you are. Do not over react, introduce him to some of meanest friend of yours and tell your cheater boyfriend that he is your best friend and insist your boyfriend to help the meanest friend.
5) If your cheater boyfriend ask you to meet him, wait for hours and then call him and tell him that you will not be able to meet him and then ask for money again.
6) Slowly he will drift away from you thinking that you are mean, they dont like people with same qualities of their own type.
If you can’t find another partner, then read below:
I had similar cheating experience with my boyfriend and with my husband both. So I had no choice but to do a research to understand from their mind why do they do it. My boyfriend was a jerk but my husband is very smarter jerk and knows that it will be his loss if we get separated. After 2 years of drama and 4 years of pain, it took me 6 long years to come out of my safety zone and try to feel and think the way cheaters feel and think. Even I started cheating. So basically I understood that cheaters do not dislike their first partner, they just want to feel and experience different thrills. So blaming yourself is pointless. It is just like having an alltime favourite lipstick shade which you like to wear everywhere, but still you get attracted to new shades of lipsticks everytime you see a new color. Did you ever ask yourself, how can I cheat my favourite lipstick shade which I ideally like to wear through the rest of my life.
Damn it.. the new lipstick shade is soooo good!!!
If you feel comfortable go ahead and have relationship with another temporary partner, it is absolutely ok, you are not doing anything wrong or against your ideals of a perfect relationship. It is very important to heal yourself so either you can choose a fling or immerse yourself in prayers.
“Besides his cheating he doesn’t treat me badly”?!?!?!
Woman, you out of your mind or what?!?! Cheating IS treating you badly.
I cannot understand how some of us women be, you know.
From since the start of the relationship the man cheating and you still go and make child for him? You think that would make him stay nuh? ha ha ha
sorry to say…………you deserve what you get……….you too damn foolish
Go and see if any stores in town selling BACKBONE and get some!!!!!
chupes…………..i vex wee…………..chupes
@ anyone: i don’t think fornication is right but where does it say you should or shouldn’t practice polygymy?
being with a cheater after several cheats tells him go ahead cheat i still there and den u jus going 2 get urself sick.from d first second u should leave all now u wouldnt b stuck with his kid
sweetie that is up to u to do. everybody have to deal with it.
do what is right for u.
well i believe you should stay with ur man cuz u love him . girl leave mister eh lol lol lol
@ Confused the heart is not so smart but you better use your head before its too late. You are
wasting your time. Anyway just for the hell of it I would ask him if he don’t mind I start seeing
someone else in the meantime he is enjoying his space. I’m not asking you to sleep around or
anything of that nature. Just nicely sit him down and ask him if he would mind if you start seeing
someone else…..SEE WHAT HAPPENS I GUARANTEE HE SING A DIFFERENT TUNE
Confused, this ‘man’ of yours ( I use the term loosely) has made it pretty clear that he does not want the relationship.
He is just not brave enough to break up with you directly so he has offered this wishy-washy excuse about “needing space” to give you a way out so that he does not have to be the ‘bad guy’. (Though he already is with the way he cheats on you.)
Men HATE emotional confrontation with women so many will avoid breaking up directly but do all they can to make YOU break up with them. They would rather you be mad at them and break up than sad with them and cry after they break up with you.
If you do not take the ‘exit route’ he has pointed out, he will respect you even less than he does now and will become openly resentful of you for hanging about. Don’t hold on to this relationship at the expense of your dignity. Hold your head up and leave.
To thine ownself be true. If only we could see the future what would our lives be like at the present? Only God knows!
This is where space exists.
By all means leave this cheating man. It appears that he will never change. He will only bring you further unhappiness. In fact, he has brought you enough unhappiness to last for your entire lifetime that I am certain you do not deserve.
When a man says he wants space, give him space as much as it hurts. In fact, send him to space.
By his very own words he has shown you that he does not love you and does not have respect for you. It is time to give this a good thought and consider leaving him. Do not waste your God-given allotted precious time with him anymore. You are growing older and there is a bright future ahead for you even though you cannot at this moment see the silver lining. It is there.
The saying: “When one door closes the other one opens. Too often we look only at the closed door and not the one that is opened for us.”
God is closing the door of this relationship. He is opening another one for you and your baby. Take advantage of this new door which is opened.
Do not let him walk all over you. He appears to want to have his cake and to eat it. He wants two sides of the world. It is time to let go of him. My view of him, even though I do not know him is that he is not a nice person. People’s friendship cannot be bought. It is not for sale.
People must be judged by their words and action – what comes out of their mouths. This determines the type of people they are. By his words he has confirmed his feelings for you. He does not deserve your love.
My suggestion is that you sever ties with him. He will have to support your (his) child. This is the only tie you should have with him and nothing else.
I bet if you had another boyfriend he would be jealous and change his tune. Do not be deceived.
Pray to God for His Divine Assistance and Guidance. God wants only what is good for us and what makes us happy and peaceful. When all is said and done, move on. May He assist you in breaking up your relationship with this man. May He bless you and bless your child. My best wishes to both of you.
girl, leave that SOB. He doe worth s*it.
Sorry girlfriend, after 7 years he knows exactly what he wants and its not you – and YOU know it too. You have so little self esteem you frightened to be alone, you probably think noone else will have you and that he is better than nothing. You are wrong cos you have nothing now! Dont teach your child how to be a doormat – take your child and get the hell out of there (or kick him out) work on powering up, building your confidence, learn to love yourself. The best revenge is for you to GET A LIFE, see how quick he come sniffing at your door, then you can draw yourself up look him straight in the face and tell him to f***k off.
I wish you the best.
Show him the door and let another cheating woman take him in birds of a feather fu…. together there`s many to go around.
When cheating is involved, can one really speak of ‘commitment’? Marriage or otherwise??
‘Commitment’ is an illusion if a man is cheating. Because other than fidelity, most times women can provide for themselves financially no matter how small the cash.
How then do you fit the man into the equation? To be at home to raise the child? A home of abuse and unhappiness? Later disease? A child who only knows his father as a cheat?
Is it really worth it?
If he cares the least for you, he will be honest, walk away and continue to be there for his kid.
It’s unfair to have you dragging along while he goes about amusing himself.
It’s not easy to just walk away. When the time is ripe you’ll know. But you MUST be strong.
u are so right
leave his skin, and thank god u didnt marry it.
it? lol
All you negative with respect to the BF.She say she loves him. too bad 4 allyou.Allyou doh know what she getting lol!
I just think your comfortable with him. I’ve observed from women who accept things like “cheating” don’t want to be alone.
It seems like your looking for reasons to stay in the relationship more than listening to him and giving him space. Maybe you should take that time and reflect on yourself and your child as well.
Infactuation comes first, Love comes after you learn to understand and respect the other person for who they are and what they contribute to your life.
Now after seven years and he isn’t commiting to you,do you think that’s the type of love you deserve?
I mean come on you can’t leave a man for cheating because it’s natural but you can certainly leave him for getting caught cheating… That’s just being dumb getting caught multiple times… unless he just don’t care… If so you know what to do.
I’m sorry but I couldn’t finish reading your sad story…you need to leave this man. Look in the mirror honey…you deserve better than waiting around for a man to tell you weather or not he wants to be with you….GET SOME SELF ESTEEM.
I support u.she must open her eyes and see the light.
dont ask foolish questions
Girlfriend ….when a man say he wants some space….he means he wants out, but Technically.
for sure he wants to be with someone other than you…I can’t say to you walk away,nor kick him in the grine……cause you all have a child together….but you seem to be fighting a loosing battle….for now..but as the saying goes.. the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fince….and believe me, that day will come, when you will get the strength to say to him f*****k off…..with his tale cut off..if you know what I mean……
Do what’s best for you and no one else..
I will make a great bopeh, boyfriend and eventually husband.
So think about it. You have my number call me.
We women always find all kind of excuses why we should stay with or good for nothing men..
Thank God u not married to that whore, u probably would have used that as one of ur excuses too! Your child and the money seems pretty legit, but honey… you said you are an independent woman. He has to take on the responsibility of his child even if he is in a relationship with youor not!!!
Do you love yourself? cause if you do you would get out of this. You’re just a convienice to him!!! He dosen’t love you..So girl pack your stuff or help him pack his (which ever applies) and get the hell out!! If you dont respect yourself no one else will. Be proud of who you are, start fresh, walk with your head high and God will see you through it..
he not sure wat he want and he staying with you. Gurl if u kno wat good for u better just pack and run. Staying is just gonna hurt u more in the long run and u will regret trust me. He’s cheated on u since the start and u stayed knowing. pure case of leaving in denial. After all that he still doesnt kno wat he wants, chic it doesnt make sence. So many kids grow up in single parent homes and end up gd. leave b4 tings turn sour.
How Right, Bella.
I will add though, that people must be told that enduring casual relationships and producing children therein has been the cause of a lot of the world’s problems. It may be late, but better late than never for us to learn that having a child should require preparation far greater than for making the most delicate cake or fanciest car, or award winning agricultural product.
With those things, we ensure that not only the utencils are clean, ingredients are the best we can afford, the environment for making them is ideal, and the technician or cook is in the cleanest, soundest possible health in both mind and body.
But for making a child it is just anything goes -. drugs or alcohol, dirty or diseased bodies, currupted, decieful or even violent minds.
The young lady knew that the man was uncommitted and “cheating on me” for years, but this did not stop her from making a child in that relationship, now she is acting like the aggrieved person, and the baby has to suck in all of that.
Wake up people. The time for ignorance is past. With the advent of mass information mankind has little excuse to claim innocence. Use your head before you share your bed!
Are you waiting for him to bring home a disease or some kids that are not yours home. You must be
stuck on stupid if u think this man loves u. I left my sons father when he was 3 months and I had no job sometimes we have to make hard decisions for our kids and ourselves. This man has u around because he knows the pu**y always home waiting for him and aint going nowhere. SO do yourself and your kid a favor and run, it will be the best thing u did for yourself, it will be hard at first but as they say time heals all wounds two years from now u will say why didnt i do this a long time ago
Confused,
1. This guy is playing “money bars with you”! He sounds like he wants to keep you there until, what he perceives as something better, comes along. He is holding on to you – hence he doesn’t want to break up, but leaving the other hand available to catch the next person – hence, he’s not too sure what he wants after so many years.
2. Maybe I missed it, but I don’t recall reading in your letter that you love this guy. Do you?
3. The fact that you asked, means you already know what you should do. Do it!! Don’t spend all your days in a relationship with someone who is not sure he wants to be in a relationship with you.
I should have re-read before posting … the term is Monkey bars” … guess I got my mind on my money
girl get out and run. a good faithful man who loves, respects and cherishes you and your son will come along. do not continue your life on this path thinking he will change his ‘weak’ ways. this is a disease. Love yourself, take it on from me. He will do it and do it more when you accept marriage from him and your life will be even more miserable then.
pum pum rule man downfall!!!
Girl leave, run as fast and as far as you can. You seem like you have made up your mind also because you just took the first step and write to Bella…Girl there is a better life out there than a cheating boyfriend. I did the same thing you did and stayed in a relationship where my boyfriend was cheating and finally i left and let me tell you it was hard in the begining but it get easier and easier and then it feel like he dosent exist anymore..So please leave now that you only have one child and you are not yet married to him..LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE…life is better without a cheating man….you dont need him
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU HAD YOURSELF CHECKED OUT FOR AIDS? YOU SHOULD RIGHT NOW AND HAVE HIM DO THE SAME AT THE SAME TIME. FOR THIS IS WHAT HE IS GOING TO PASS ON TO YOU FROM ANOTHER WOMAN. A DEATH SENTENCE. SO NOW YOU DECIDE. YOUR LIFE OR HIS FINANCIAL HELP.
“He has cheated on me constantly from the start of the relationship and although I know I should have left him long ago, I didn’t”…..”Should I wait to see if he still wants the relationship or should I leave? ”
you didn’t then..now that you have a child you wouldn’t now..I already see how this goes.
but I do hope that EVENTUALLY u will develop some sort of self esteem and move on cuz honestly chick…you are in a relationship with yourself, this man don’t care one **** about you, if he did he wouldn’t be poking his parts in all other women, and its cuz he KNOWs he can get away with it he continues cuz u always take him back, and that’s SAD. The guy knows he can **** you whenever he wants and that’s just it…I’m not trying to be mean but i’m not sugar-coting the truth either. sometimes women need to hear harsh realities.
Hope it works out for you.
You ever heard of the word “saleh”? i have, It was taught to me by a wonderful woman after my very first breakup. When i was crying my eyes out and being all miserable she told me to stop it, get a hold of myself, be greatful for my “saleh” and move on! i had gotten nice gifts from my boyfriend, none of which he was entitled to get back when we broke up…diamonds and teddy bears and lots of pretty things:-). i was going to give them back and she was like “are u crazy! u deserved those things, they are yours, your “saleh”, dont u dare give them back!!!…so….I kept my “salehs” and i MOVED ON. we were very happy my salehs and me…lol. Your boyfriend has given u a very precious “saleh”, one of the most PRECIOUS things you can have, so take your baby boy and go off and make a beautiful life for yourself. i kno i am enjoying my diamonds up to this day…Your son will forgive u when he grows up, after all his father was not the most faithful man on earth.
I JUST LEARNED THAT WORD ‘SALEH’ COUPLE DAYS AGO.WOOSH BUT ITS NICER TO GET THE SALEH WITH OUT KIDS
girl don’t think twice. Move, Run.
You are hurt that he is cheating, don’t wait to hear he is married. that will be the hurt.
the space he is asking for.
he will always be close to his child no matter what since he love it.
Sometimes I wonder don’t people feel ashamed to be talking about boyfriend and girlfriend?
Isn’t the fear of God the beginning of wisdom? Where is the fear of God when people are proud of their fornication? Don’t they remember that a fornicator/ess will not enter the kingdom of God? Why when evil is spoken against people try to counterargue, ‘he who has no sin cast the first stone?’ Are these the excuses people make to indulge in sin? I think it’s pathetic and sad!
First of all, this is a fornicating filthy relationship not built on any spirituality. It is a shame an innocent child must come into the relationship, once again a bastard is born. Of course the child is not responsible or guilty, but this is what happens when people follow their desires.
Second, I suggest this woman has a lengthy chat with the Most High, seek His forgiveness for her polytheistic practices which is the worst sin. She needs to abandon this if she is really serious about chance because God does not change a people until they change the condition within themselves. Then, she needs to gain accurate knowledge and be convinced that fornication is a disgusting sin to the Most High. She needs to GET OUT of this relationship. After, she needs not to return to fornication, she needs to think about courtship and marriage if she decides to move on.
This is my suggestion for now.
A fornicator will not enter the kingdom of God??!!! We all know its a sin and no sin is better or not as bad as the other. So if tahts the case the kingdom of God will be empty for all have sinned and fallen short of God’s glory.
please come back Muslim_Always and give the exact scripture the the Holy Bible(not your bible) that says Fornicator/ ess will not enter the Kingdom of God…..
@ hmmm: 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 reads: Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor EFFEMINATE, nor abusers of themselves with mankind. Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
I wish the writers of Corinthians should have added to the list of people who WON’T enter the kingdom of God, “people who blow themselves up killing innocent people, people who cut off the head of other people because a Koran (made of paper and ink) was burnt, people who kill other people in the name of some stupid thing call ‘Jihad.’
Oh, how I wish I could find Muhammad grave so i could take a piss on it.. LMFAO
@ Buwo: How many accounts of jihad the bible has? How many wars were fought?
The Holy Quran is not just paper and ink. It is the divine speech of Allah. It’s what the Holy Quran means, it is a sacred book. Even non-muslim intellectuals have condemned this action. They know the Holy Quran is the speech of All Mighty God, however, due to pride and other diseases of the heart, they fail to submit to the truth.
You want to piss on the grave of the Holy Prophet? May Allah guide you, you are just ignorant. May Allah turn this bad statement, place light in your heart so that you can seek constructive knowledge so that you may learn about the Prophet Muhammad. Ameen.
Is it only because you are a fornicator and you wouldn’t enter the kingdom of God you are so mad? Are you guilty? My friend once you have life there is a chance for you. At least read about the prophet Muhammad and his life. Let me provide you with a link, I hope you take the time to read.
My duty is to convey the message, the rest is up to you and Allah. He will be a witness between you and I on judgement day.
http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/Ar-Raheeq%20Al-Makhtum.pdf
Only one who strives to please God will find the truth. Those who turn away or are lazy will never learn the truth.
Western civilization is designed around freedom of choice, to voice your opinions. Homosexuality is not the issue at hand firstly.
Secondly, fornication is a world wide epidemic even muslims are punished for this. So why are you so quick to condemn the society you live in? Whereas, your religious brethren’s par take in the same activities.
I’m sure many do it discreetly.
Sex happens becase we can fornicate left, right and center…that’s a choice many make before marriage.
So now, tell me why you can’t answer my question?
I really want to know your views on this?
Can you read the Holy Quran? The majority of muslims are unable to read or understand it. They simply recite what they are taught.
Muslim_Always is right. The bible says who will not enter into the Kingdom of the Father. The only thing I don’t agree with Muslim_always is his stance on marriage for 12 and 13 year old and the fact that his religion allows more than one wife (ves). But if one reads his articles objectively, he makes a point that we always makes excuses like the famous one “who is without sin cast the first stone”. First and foremost, we should really respect the Most High. Yes she really should get out of this relationship and not run into another one or repeat the same mistake of “fornicating”. We do not like to hear that this is wrong but indeed it is. Not because sex is free and everyone is doing it that it is correct. This young lady needs a man who will respect her and want to be in a lasting relationship with her. She does not have to give her body to anyone to be accepted. That is where repentance comes into play. She and many of us have done it before yes fornicate but when we know that what we did was wrong then we try our best not to repeat our mistakes.
Young Lady good luck to you and you son. Seek ye first the kingdom and his rigteousness and all other things will be added unto you.
Good luck my dear and lean on the Everlasting Father and try your best to do his will. He will never leave you nor forsake you and he will take care of all your needs including sending youone of this days a nice God fearing man to be your husband.
Muslim always, let us not be so quick to judge others. remember jesus was nailed on the cross with a theif and he told him that he would be with him in paradise on that very day. We dont know who is going to enter and who isn’t. every one will answer to god when their time comes, in the mean time dont be so quick to pass judgement on your brothers and sisters. Alot of us were born bastard children and we would like to think that even if our parents made mistakes, that one day they will see the kingdom of god. you dont know it all, you are human, you make mistakes, and from what i know all sins are weighed the same, so who knows maybe u might not enter the kingdom of god either because i am certain that there is not one man on earth currently living a life without sin.
@ Muslim _ always
…And prior to anyone entering the Kingdom of Heaven, everyone must first accept Our Lord Jesus Christ as King and Savior of the world and serve Him in this world. Otherwise they will not be saved. They have forfeited their entry into Heaven.
Therefore, you are in no position to judge and condemn others. You have much to learn.
In addition, there will be no virgins to meet them in Heaven at the Holy and Pure Throne of God. Our Lord said: “In Heaven, they neither marry nor are given in marriage.”
Also, God sends nobody to murder others. We must first live in love and peace with our brothers and sisters in Jesus Christ.
It is also said in Holy Scripture of the New Testament: “Strive for peace for without that holiness nobody sees the Lord.”
As St. Paul said: “No murderer will ever enter the Kingdom of Heaven.”
The information in the Koran was borrowed, rather stolen from the Christian Holy Bible, The Old and New Testaments. Keep in mind that Christianity is 2000 years old. Islam is only approximately 600 years old. It is by no means superior to Christianity.
Take this Muslim _ always and learn from the Christian faith and about it. Also cease judging and condemning others. God knows what you do behind closed doors.
Our Lord Jesus Christ said: “Judge not that you may not be judged accordingly and two-fold.” And more…as contained in the Holy Bible. This is The One and Only Bible that matters and is important in the eyes of God.
@ Truth, justice…: There is no way in my right mind I could EVER return to Christianity! There is no way I would worship a human being! The concept of the trinity is pure falsehood and paganism. How can I worship someone who prayed, ate, slept, went to the bathroom?
I am in a position to judge an action: Isn’t it the same bible that says by their FRUITS you shall know them? Thus, in Islam we do not judge the intentions of people but we surely judge actions.
The Idea that the Holy Quran borrowed from the bible that is only laughable. It only shows that you have not read or even possess a copy of the Holy Quran. The statement reflects a high level of ignorance.
Also, who are you to speak about murder? Christianity is filled with blood much more than Islam. The Spanish Inquisition, World War I and II, the crusades even Pope John Paul II had to apologise for and I can go on forever. The Atlantic Slave Trade was engineered by white christians!
Islam is only 600 years old?
again the completion of Islam occured 1400 years ago.
You my friend have a lot to learn!!! No sex in heaven or marriage? Well no wonder the priests are busy with little boys because they’re getting none in heaven!
Now which bible are you speaking about, the one with 72, 66, 88, etc books? Which one?
Look who’s talking about fornicating a MUSLIM which has many wifes. Isn’t that fornicating? lol
@ Mudd: Can you compare marriage and committment to these wives which most of the prophets practiced to FORNICATION? Are you suggesting that prophet Abraham, Solomon, Jacob were fornicators? Are you suggesting that these ‘fornicators’ God was pleased with them?
Why can one man have many wives but a woman have one husband….I’m guessing you guys take the stance that it takes one man to re-populate the world???? If sex was meant to be pleasurable, a gift from God for husband and wife, they become one flesh.
Why should a man combine flesh with another woman besides his first wife…why should the woman have to share her husband?
Believe it or not but society is like this but without the marriage….Many men have alot of women and these women remain faithful to them…but when its a woman with many men, she’s a whore etc.
@ BMI: When you truthfully answer why is it man and woman can fornicate left, right and center? Or why is it that people are so open towards homosexuality but closed minded towards polygyny which most of the prophets of God practiced?
When you can address the evils the western world supports we can begin a wonderful conversation God’s willing.
Muslim always PLEASE GO PLAY IN TRAFFIC… u always comment like u know everything… geez.. damn pedophile.
@ away dominican: You hypocrite, supporting fornication then you people talk about God and love. Many of you have no morals to be supporting fornication.
You call me a pedophile? Let’s see what the bible says: http://www.answering-christianity.com/x_rated.htm
Go look at the stuff in your bible before you call people names.
Who u calling hypocrite??? U like little girls… I don’t condone fornication neither do I condone getting married just because I want to have sex… I merely telling u to go play in traffic… u pedophile…
A man who cheats worth nothing. You are at a risk of getting all soughts of diseases etc. If this man says he loves you, he would never cheat on you with anyone else.
My dear you deserve better
So true…