I broke up with my high school sweetheart of 6-7 years after he got another girl pregnant and left the country right after the break up.
I’m back now after four years and find myself falling for that guy. I do love him very much but just not certain whether I should get back in a relationship with him. He has admitted he has feelings for me and not sure if he’ll ever get over me, but I just dont know if he loves me genuinely.
Its now five years since we broke up and so much has happened: I have a child and he recently got out of a relationship with someone that he cared deeply for. He told me his girlfriend left him for petty reasons but he has changed over the years (no longer cheats).
We have discussed getting back together but we both have alot of questions and doubts. But I do love him very much. We are both single and have always maintained good communication between us.
Is it wise to get back in a relationship after a five-year break up?
So you two were high school sweethearts for 6-7 years but then he got someone else pregnant. This is the first red flag. If he had loved you genuinely from back then, this would have never happened.
Then he got into another relationship but has now broken up because of “petty reasons,” as he said. I think this happened because he cheated as he cheated on you during your high school sweetheart years..
It seems your ex is good at cheating and this has been destroying successive relationships. Hence tread with caution. Don’t jump into anything with him right now. Keep the good communication between the two of you going. Take into consideration you have a child and children always complicate matters. Just make sure you don’t fall in a trap that you will regret later on.
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