Young lady in love with other young lady falling for guy

Dear BellaI’m a young lady who needs a bit of advice. I’m 27 and a bit confused about the way things are going on in my life. I’ve been in this relationship for three years now with this other young lady, who is 29. I love her and admire her unconditionally.

There is this guy who has been my friend for years and I appreciate his friendship dearly but he’s coming unto me. The problem is I may be giving in. I’m not sure if its because my lady is away. He doesn’t know there’s someone in my life.

He too is away but he treats me well and provides for me. My lady has been away for years.

What should I do?

Young Lady

Dear young lady,

When God created the world, he created Adam and Eve. Not Eve and Evette.

Bella

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212 Comments

  1. January 10, 2013

    I have read Young Lady’s letter and Bella’s reply. I have also read some (not yet all) of the letters from those who have made comments. First, allow me to speak to Young Lady. If you are in a “same sex relationship” with another woman please break it off. The Bible in both the Old Testament and the New Testament forbid homosexulity. Jesus Christ Himself said there would bean epidemic of this sin in the last days us before He returns. He said “As it was in the days of Sodom and Gomorrha so shall it be in the days of the coming of the Son of Man”. Studies show that homosexuals have a higher rate of alcoholism, drug addiction, and suicide than hetrosexuals. Statistics also reveal that they have a shorter life span. If you really want to know the SCIENTIFIC truth about this lifestyle please read the book HOMOSEXUALITY AND THE POLITICS OF TRUTH by Dr. Jeffrey Satinover, M.D. Dr. Satinover has practiced psychiatry for over twenty years. He has taught at Harvard University and Yale University. In his book he gives documented proof showing the social, mental, and physical damage done by homosexual behaviour. This book an be ordered online from AMAZON. The fact that a gentleman is reaching out to you at this time may be an expression of God’ grace. Even if he is not the right man for you the best thing you can do is break away from the woman. Now I want to say something to those who have disagreed with Bella. It is O.K. to disagree. But some of you have been downight nasty. Bella was being honest with Young Lady. Her answer was a simple straight (no pun intended) expression of Biblical truth and there is no higher truth! I am a minister so of course I would say that. But I am also a trained pastoral counselor and along the way I picked up a Doctor of Psychology degree. So I can assure you that Bella was not being insensitive. Her columns are well written. She is in fact quite professional. I invite you to visit my website. http://www.livinghopeministries.ca Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evanglist.

  2. July 24, 2012

    my girl go to the BIBLE

  3. Joan
    July 11, 2012

    A stupid response Bella. Shameful. Insulting and Insensitive.

  4. anonymous
    July 3, 2012

    thats the fastest answer i have ever seen, bella u was waiting for that one i suspect lmfao

  5. September 6, 2011

    It is writen in Gen 6.4 God did not make anyone perfect.In fact he repented for his mistake.If you fell inlove with a woman and now she is out of sight and have feelings for a man what is the big deal
    Now you will know who you will want to love more man or woman,your heart is not made of iron so it will tell you which one its happy with.or join a convent an pray for perfection only you can decide your fate to be a lesbian or bisexual because God did not make you perfect.Jesus said you must love Your neighbour as youself and have faith if you want to be saved the choice is yours for peace on earth.

  6. FIRE BELLA!
    August 21, 2011

    Bella …how on earth did you get this job? Thats the most close minded..homophobic response imaginable…you clearly are not qualified to give anybody advice..That was so RUDE..next thing the girl go and kill herself…U SUCK!go get a psychology degree!State college offers them!

    • tinz
      October 5, 2012

      no…… she is saying leave da woman n get with da man……… you callin her judgemental but u judging her…… dont be silly

    • January 7, 2017

      I have a psychology degree but it does not qualify me to give advice.

      I do not give advice. I am a pastoral counselor. That is one who is first a pastor and draws the attention of the client to what God says in the Bible that relates to his or her problem. Other books may be referred to
      and there will be a discussion. But in the end it is the client who decides what the scriptures say to him or her in that particular situation.

      Basically – in short – this is what Bella has done. I find no fault with her reply.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

  7. Barbie_20_madebyGOD
    July 26, 2011

    ok i dont think that you, Bella, are in any place to give any criticism. you are there to guide people and inspire them. whether right or wrong God always gives us a choice and lets us make our mistakes. you are being very ridiculous and quite hypocritical. its time u learn ur place. 2nd never 1st!!!!!!!!!!!!
    ^_^

  8. the1 who complained
    July 23, 2011

    well this just shows how ignorant and stupid miss bella is, thanks for the critics both good and bad… where there’s a will there’s a way. God is good. i’m happy now.. really didnt need miss bella’s input after the way she responded. things are just the way they are supposed to be. he makes me happy. to miss bella you need to take a dose and (beep) off

  9. YesIsaidItAnd
    July 22, 2011

    young lady with the issue, here’s my advice: follow your heart, if you develop feelings for the guy and both he and your girl lives elsewhere, you and her should have a heart to heart conversation. Discuss whether or not you should continue your relationship or you no longer want to because your heart is somewhere else. Let her know but don’t lead her on.
    And Dear “Bella”, I wonder if you’re really a) a man b) a homophobe or c) old and wrinkly. For your answer to this had me shocked for it is very one sided and biased. Someone coming on here needs ADVICE, NOT YOUR JUDGEMENTAL STATEMENT. Gays, lesbo, are all human. and only one person should judge them and that’s god. So you just showed the world that you’re a homophobic individual. If you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all. -YesIsaidItAnd? :wink:

  10. PNLE
    July 19, 2011

    Who the heck is this bella person. i would slap u six ways from sunday for your shitty advice. and i wouold bitch slap the person who allows u to give what i guess u consider advice. u r a very dangerous and harmful person to the people who write to u.

  11. Diva
    July 16, 2011

    First all what is the sense of u beiing in a realtionship with a lady and u self is a female.. this rubbish talk .. personally i think u should caught of this realtionship with this lady even if it hurts.. both ur friend the boy and ur girlfriend,treats u right but u stated that this boys seems more interested.. think about it and make up ur mind.. cause it seems like u are confused.. #Best of luck !

  12. forreal
    July 16, 2011

    Am sure that most of the”so call” Biblical scholars likes bell answer to this young lady’s concern, i personally see a lack of knowledge, consideration and total lack of empathy on Bella’s part, you are the host to this column, an adviser,your readers have done afar better job in advising this lady, we have to learn to look outside the box stop judging people every body’s situation is different. It makes so much difference in the way we comment, advice and speak to people. You or i and many of your readers do not have to like or choose her lifestyle but it does not mean we have to give such harsh judgment based on our beliefs. She may be a lesbian , but in the eyes of god sin is sin, and who are we to cast judgment like our lives & behaviors are accounted for in such ” high moral’s with the greatest measures.

  13. Charmer
    July 10, 2011

    Who is this Bella person. Aren’t you supposed to have some kind of counselliing skills? What kind of petty response is that? Maybe you should consider giving up this column

  14. SMH
    July 9, 2011

    i find sex topic does sweeten Dominicans eh

  15. Disappointed
    July 7, 2011

    Let he without sin cast the first stone. Bella i’m disappointed, that’s no way to handle a problem. You are in No position to judge. No Sin is worst than the other. Let he with No sin cast the first stone..

  16. dhestini
    July 5, 2011

    i think its time bella retired. cuz apparently u’re getting fed up of giving advice. somebody came to u apparently at some croosroad in their life, and there u r giving them ur hypocritic and judgemental answer. u also forgot the part where God gave us free choice. whether its wrong or right ur column is there to guide and help them, not criticise them and their choices. if u cannot handly pple and their issues then i think its time u hand over the baton and give up. im disgusted at ur answer

    • Truth,Justice,Peace
      July 5, 2011

      @dhestini

      Some of you are so wrong in your thinking and comments.
      On the day of judgment or rather when you die sooner or later and stand before God for your final judgment, tell him that He gave you a free mind and will and that you could have done whatever you wished with it, even offending Him by disobeying His Commandments and what is contained in Holy Scriptures which are really His Commandments and note, to your dilemma, where your soul will end up for all eternity.

      • Dante
        July 6, 2011

        Truth, Justice – just shut up. No one cares to read your interminable puritanical essays on garbage.

      • dhestini
        July 6, 2011

        being gay, in the eyes of the Lord, is no bigger sin than lying, stealing, cheating. wld u condemn somebody who commit those sins? – no!! at the end of it we all gotta stand before God. we choose to steal cheat and lie. y not choose to be gay too. after all they’re all sins arent they? so stop playing holier than thou and condemn pple for being gay. its only a bigger sin in the eyes of society. society rates sins-which one is bigger, which one can be excused, which one can be forgiven and which are unforgivable. God does not rate. and if she chooses to change her life and ask for forgiveness He WILL forgive, regardless of how much pple like YOU have already judged and rated her and her sin. its not ur place to judge.

      • Puke on my shoes!
        August 21, 2011

        Dear Truth and Justice…

        I know you aint going to stand up there and act like you never watched porn, masturbated, lied or watched somebody with envy…

        get over yourself..you probably taking more man or sleeping with prostitutes..gimme a break!

  17. July 5, 2011

    well said

  18. July 5, 2011

    that was de best answer
    people needs to respect the way GOD put things

  19. Ridiculous
    July 5, 2011

    Bella u going from bad to worse man? instead u assist the young lady that u telling her? nah man bella……some people cnt help d fact that they’re gay, some are truly gay..atleast tell d young lady dt u knw sometimes they cnt help it to be gay but still its nt pleasing to God n maybe she should go wit d man…….nah man bella, wake up n smell d coffee

    • dhestini
      July 5, 2011

      sorry i clicked the dislike button by mistake. i totally agree with u. right now i think whoever this bella person is is making a mokery of DNO. i think its time the administration really take a look at what is goin on in this column. that response fr bella is utterly uncalled for. there r other ways she cld have formed that statement which wld make it a little more reader friendly. im not gay but i totally take offense to that. i can only imagine how the writer felt after pouring her heart out and getting that fr bella

  20. Truth, Love, Peace
    July 5, 2011

    Let the truth be told! It is the duty of every one of us to help others along the way, to do good and offer good advice. Sometimes we will have to project toughness and tell it like it is whether they get angry.
    I am wondering how many good and holy people are there in Dominica and in the world? By your comments which came from your heart, there appears to be few. Your comments are not exemplary and to the young ones who read this column and comment on this Website.
    Our Lord Jesus Christ said: “When He returns to earth, will He find faith?”
    Your comments have given you away; who and what you are. I cannot believe that you are Christians and practicing ones at that who will lambaste Bella for providing her comment. There are times many words are not necessary to prove a point and provide advice, as long as it makes sense and is comprehensible.
    Then some of you accuse DNO of posting the article, citing that it is a hoax/fake. How stupid? You believe other information that you hear and read of as international news. If someone were to approach you and state that another spoke ill of you, you will believe without finding out the truth and will be offended. You will go after the one whose name is implicated and pick a fight too. Note the difference.
    You do not need people the benefit of the doubt.
    What is contained in this article is factual. I have no reason to doubt this article, knowing that this is occurring all over the world. Many of you do not utilize your basic common sense if you have any.
    Be careful of the advice and your comments. Those who do not speak the Truth of Jesus Christ and who lead others astray merit eternal damnation.
    Our Lord said: “By your words you will be acquitted and by your words you will be condemned.”
    This woman who has an affair with a woman is doing exactly that. She is selling her soul for money and possessions to the devil. She is devoid of faith, hope and trust in the Lord. She is following her own ways and the path of perdition.
    These are people who, no doubt, were baptized Christians and who have gone astray due to bad company.
    She should also not bother with the man whom she states is away and who loves her and gives her everything. She should consider that while they profess to love her or care for her, they are keeping faithful. They are enjoying themselves with other people.
    Find yourself a good, loving heterosexual partner. God did not create you to enter into a lesbian relationship and to allow people, the woman and this man to use you. This is exactly what it is. You are being used. There is no genuine love here. Think of your future and your future sanity and happiness.
    You are in dire need of God’s blessing and graces. When you sway from God this is what occurs, the devil takes over and you cannot see right from wrong. You become confused. What you are doing is totally wrong.
    My further advice is, go to Church, pray and read Holy Scriptures and perform acts of love and mercy. Keep busy in the Lord. In so doing God will shield you from evil.
    Keep in mind the words of The Our Father: …”And lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil. Amen!”
    God will open your eyes to what is good and bad, what is good to do and good for yourself. This is what God wants of you, of all of us. This is where true, permanent happiness and peace lie.
    God deceives no one and He cannot be deceived. What we sow we shall surely reap in time.
    May God also grant you mortal and spiritual enlightenment. This also pertains to those who adversely commented about this article. You are all dire in need of this, God’s blessing, graces, mercy and enlightenment.

    • tough meat
      January 31, 2012

      u doe have nothing better to do man?

    • anonymous
      July 3, 2012

      you wanted bella job with that essay man lool

  21. eliminated
    July 4, 2011

    :-? how am i to feel when i need advice and i come to Bella? that was not the way to have handled the young lady’s call for advice……. bella as an advice columnist u cannot let ur personal feelings be forthfront. u must at all times give a logical and unbiased piece of advice!!! eve and evette wat!?? huh? right now many ppl around the world (gays as well as the heterosexual who supporrt gay rights)are promoting equality not downtroddeness. we are way past ignorant times wen someone was shut out and cast down because of there sexual choice…. if it were quite and issue defining a person do u think ppl like ellen degeneres or elton john would have thrived and made it to where they are??? NO!! bella u are proving to be of an ignorant closed minded dominican than thought….. if u so thought against u could have said to the girl let her heart speak to her and not make ur personal feeling the subject of ur answer!!!! SHAMEFUL AND IGNORANT!!!

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      July 4, 2011

      @ eliminated

      With a name like that and your comment you have eliminated yourslef from the Saints and future saints.
      Bella is correct! Simply, God did not create two women and two men to enter into a relationship.
      Whoever you are, you make me angry. Read and study your Holy Bible, beginning with The Book of Genesis. Do not deceive yourself otherwise and allow yourself to be deceived by Satan, the detractor and destroyer of souls for his eternal cauldron.
      We are residing in sensible times. People like you make it ignorant times.
      You are the one who is ignorant and closed- minded. :twisted: Because people appear to be successful in life they are good people and are living holy lives? Where are your brains?
      What equality? On whose side are you on? Surely it is not on God’s side but on Satan’s side. :twisted: :twisted: Conform your will to the Will of God lest you perish eternally.
      Whoever support homosexual and lesbian rights are not on the side of God. They err and greatly so.
      If we let her heart speak, we are also siding with her. We, too, will be condemned to eternal damnation. Ever thought of that? You may be either a homosexual or a lesbian. You are a change of heart and mind.

      • OPEN-MINDED & PROUD
        August 21, 2011

        you do know that 3 hundred years ago black people were thought off how you think of gay people?

        why black people…who have been discriminated against for centuries..who were seen as ugly and unclean…and seen as made to be slaves by people who held a bible in their hand…think it is right to discriminate against gay people?? But allu will slander the white man for discriminating against you..HYPOCRITE!

        I hope you know that at one point white men justified slavery by what they read in the bible..so go ahead

  22. Mapwey
    July 4, 2011

    Reading bella’s comment is just a damn waste of time if u ask me, i dont know why someone would waste their precious time to ask for ur advice…my first issue with u miss bella; as much as u are against the young ladies doing thats not to ur concern u are not the one who judges her at her time when she is facing the lord almighty…2ndly u are asked to give advice; ya u can give ur views on how god created adam and eve, but still u dont just down pour someone like that and thing u gave advice. i would like to think u just have a free job at dno i highly dought they paying u for that bull&^$^. i mean grow up woman or man whoever u are! gosh total waste of time…am very disappointed in u

  23. HEAD SHAKING
    July 4, 2011

    BELLA THAT ADVICE WAS NOT VERY HELPFUL…MY GOSH…IT WAS BIASED N JUDGEMENTAL

  24. Adam and Eve
    July 4, 2011

    Bella … dat is d realest response you ever gave, now i have respect for u

  25. stupesss
    July 4, 2011

    Bella full of S&*$%!!…Thats the best u can do??…why do ppl waste there time on this CRAP!!

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      July 4, 2011

      Your name is not stupesss for nothing. So are you full of what you directed at Bella. :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

    • lmfao
      July 5, 2011

      not sayin that i disagree with what u told bella.. .she is full oh [email protected]#$% buh u asked”why do ppl waste there time on this crap!!” ask urself that question becuz look u dre commenting :P

  26. dog face
    July 4, 2011

    it looks like all of u was waiting to jump on d girl back.she only ask for an advice. woman has a right to get on like that nowadays cuz all the guys r interested in is drugs n luxury,women needs love not those lil boys we see, even pastor doing it too. Bella u not God n u ur self need some dam good advice.Am blind to u haterz……

  27. July 3, 2011

    see u need to get a life first stop your nastiness get a man , not peoples own cause most of u are good in Kidnapping other peoples men ,maybe by crook or by chance u are good in it and even fight the owner , i know u all are bold get a long wood in you and finish with that salop all u doing if its for fun stop u crazy , as sweet as a dick is with a man and woman u there digging pussy like chicken looking for God knows what on the ground only to find it eating worms and nonesence . u have time to come here and talk your nonsence u lucky am in a good mood

  28. i doe kno a name
    July 3, 2011

    lmao…. i enjoy reading comments more than the stories wii… lmao look kix… thumbs up if u agree with me :D

  29. Quen J
    July 3, 2011

    :lol: shame shame shame the world has tured into

  30. Patriotic Citizen
    July 3, 2011

    Honestly. An advice columnist provides comforting advice and maternal wisdom.. I undesrtand that she may not be professional or wise… (apparently) I totally read your disclaimer but as a rising emerged online website a lot of your readers expect more!

  31. July 3, 2011

    bella needs some good hard wood

  32. DC
    July 2, 2011

    NEWS FLASH!

    There is no heaven or hell. What all-knowing God would have created man only to burn in hell for all eternity? “Many are called but few are chosen”? Narrow is the way and straight is the gate that leads to eternal life? Sorry but I don’t think so – what kind of a God is that? How many religions are there? Each thinks they are the only right way.

    LIVE AND LET LIVE PEOPLE!

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      July 4, 2011

      @ DC

      If you do not conform to the Holy Will of God you will condemn yourself.
      We were created to love God with all our heart and soul, to serve Him and others and to be happy with Him forever. Too bad if you miss the boat for all eternity. It will be your fault. You will have condemned yourself for God condemns no one. He gave you a free mind and will and this same mind which will either save you or condemn you. It depends which path you take. Pay attention before it is too late!

  33. nuts
    July 2, 2011

    girl God send you a man to deliver you from that sin you in!
    nastiness.

    this is so disgraceful.

  34. Gator
    July 2, 2011

    You know what DNO need to Post Bella’s position on line and have all of you all apply for it. Let me see if any of you can do better..hmm doubt it. The majority of you all don’t even know proper grammar, can’t spell properly and only busy calling God name in vain when it suit you all…blah blah..blah… :mrgreen:

    • gigi
      July 4, 2011

      :lol: agreed

    • HEAD SHAKING
      July 4, 2011

      AND YOU ARE ONE TO TALK? EVERYBODY ARE ENTITLED TO THEIR OPINIONS JUST LIKE YOU… AND THERE IS A REASON FOR THE “COMMENT BOX”…GET IT?

    • Anonymous
      July 5, 2011

      hmmmm last I checked neither can Bella. LOL

  35. Staight Wood
    July 2, 2011

    bella is right. is them kind of nastiness there that have the pastor so. the world just mess up… bull know female from male, cock know poulet ram know female so how human being dont know the difference male and female.

    • Straight Wood
      July 2, 2011

      bella is right. is them kind of nastiness there that have the pastor so. the world just mess up… bull know female from male, cock know poulet ram know female so how human being dont know the difference male and female.

  36. ArAb
    July 2, 2011

    There was no other reply that could be given. Perfect answer

    • September 24, 2013

      ArAb: :idea: I totally agree with you :!:

      BELLA’s answer was short and to the point. What offended some of readers is the fact that the answer to the whole gay issue is short and to the point.

      The record of creation is Genesis contains many lessons for us. The fact that God created and a man and a woman and declared them one flesh as a model for marriage simply cannot be improved upon.

      Jesus said: “…Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female. And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What thetrefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.” (Matthew 19:4-6)

      This is marriage and no other “relationship” meets the critera to qualify for a marriage regardless of what any government may call it.

      God forbids homosexuality. The Bible describes it as “…that which is against nature.” (Romans 1:26) This statemernt is best read in the conext of verses 24 -28.

      Two single people living together is not a marriage because it lacks commitment. When a man
      is not willing to make it legal and give the lady his name it is because he wants the relationship to have an open end :oops: so he can crawl out if he changes his mind. :twisted:

      A man in Jamaica said he could not bcome a Cheristian because he was living with a woman he was not married to. When he was asked “Why don’t you marry her he said, “She is not the kind of woman I would want for a wife.” What they had was not a marriage bcause there was no commitment. A marriage is made by a commitment each to the other and it is made in the presence of witnesses which makes it binding. :-D :-P

      There are exceptions but it is usually the woman who comes out on the short end. :cry: Most young ladies want a marriage with a man they can be proud to introduce as their husband. They hope for a family. Anything less results in them being taken advanate of, used, and tossed aside as spoiled goods.

      This lady admits having feelings for a man. :wink: Obviously she was not born a lesbian. The answer for her is to look back at the model God gave us for domestic relationships. She should form a respectable friendship with a decent man who is willing to make her his bride. Bella in a short and simple statement was pointing her back to God’s model for marriage.

      Some people who don’t want to subject themselves to the laws of God and His Divine order for things mock the Bible and the Genesis records. They need to pull up their socks. Science has left them behind. If that is you I recommend that you read the book CREATION witten by Grant Jeffrey, Ph.D. Or you could go to THE SCIENCE OF GOD, by Gerald Schroeder, Ph.D., or THE PUZZLE OF ANCIENT MAN by Donald Chittick, Ph.D. I expect these books can all be purchased through AMAZON.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist. :lol:

  37. Concerned Dominican
    July 2, 2011

    BELLA needs a vibrator!

    • Staight Wood
      July 2, 2011

      girl kyat was made for wood, you have two bloody stinking plates rubing what is that?

      • Concerned Dominican
        July 2, 2011

        What happen? U wanna roast de kyat?

      • Straight Wood
        July 3, 2011

        yup i’ll roast it with wood and cum

      • gigi
        July 4, 2011

        hahahaha! when they tired rub they will give out smoke and then break

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      July 4, 2011

      How concerned are you and about that? I have not read anything about your concern. :twisted: :mrgreen:

  38. Concerned Dominican
    July 2, 2011

    I think this BELLA person is all fraud – just so DNO can hear people’s opinion on the day’s events.

    p.s. Maybe BELLA is not aware on the latest UN Declarations on Gays/Homosexuals/Lesbians!

    I wonder where BELLA went school or on what days she went to school.

    • Mapwey
      July 4, 2011

      she was holding the blackboard for the teacher

  39. Requiem
    July 1, 2011

    Oy. What kind of advice is that? Okay, So God created Adam and Eve, not Eve and Evette. The world knows. Somehow, the world doesn’t seem to care anymore. Instead of being prejudice, why not give the advice you’re supposed to give? What, you couldn’t think of better advice than that? Why not just ignore the question?

    • Juice
      July 2, 2011

      That’s the problem the world does’nt care anymore and its sad very sad :( so bella should just shut up and let all of us voice our opinion and she should just stay mum :twisted:

      • Truth, Love, Peace
        July 4, 2011

        Those of you who criticize Bella should shut up because you have nothing constructive to state. The pot always calls the kettle black. :twisted: :mrgreen: :twisted: :mrgreen:

      • fire
        July 5, 2011

        Juice is sick.

  40. Ashley
    July 1, 2011

    Good answer Bella, keep them coming

  41. Dee
    July 1, 2011

    Admin it is very very clear that Bella is useless and is not effective at giving advice. Im availble to offer my services free of charge……. An advise column is about giving advise and helping people sort out their problems not being judgemental and ignoring people’s cries for help. My vote for a new Bella.

    ADMIN: there are over a hundred comments. Hence Bella is doing her job effectively. lol

    • July 4, 2011

      So ADMIN – are you saying that it’s not the content of the advice but the number of comments that determines the success? So that’s the reflection on DNO

      Well, DAMN SHAME!

      • Truth, Love, Peace
        July 4, 2011

        Foolish question which DON should not have allowed. :twisted: :mrgreen: :twisted: :mrgreen:

    • Travaile
      July 22, 2011

      Of the hundred comments as u so noted Mr. Admin, 90 of them are from Truth, love and peace. lol :-D

      ADMIN: LOL

  42. Boss
    July 1, 2011

    :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :-P :-P :-P :-D :-D :-D :-D
    People should vote on whether to fire Bella because she is becoming more and more stupid stupider and stupidiez as the days go by.
    Honestly Bella makes me laugh with those responses….even if she is not professional she could come better than that. My 3 yr old niece can give a better response than Bella. Hey Bella, be careful with some of your responses you give because you can send some fool over a bridge claiming that you said this or you said that

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      July 4, 2011

      @ Boss

      So are you becoming more and more stupid, stupider and stupidiez as you spelt those words.
      Teach your 3 year old niece to love and respect others. Nurture her appropriately that she will become a godly responsible adult and a law-abiding one.
      If the fools want to go over the bridge, God gave them a free mind and will. It will be their choice. They cannot blame anyone but themselves for being so foolish. Where do you thing suicide cases may end up? You know where.

      • SMH
        July 9, 2011

        Best u aint call noone stupid, stupider and stupiest…(truth, love, peace) check your spellings…think not thing and let me enjoy my comments please you just there coming with your essays…wanna do CXC 4 me next year?? and stop calling God’s name in vain.

  43. fire
    July 1, 2011

    Bella big up yo self,me love how u maners all dem nasty people.Nuff respect.

    • Ice
      July 2, 2011

      Wat out fire all those bella-haters might stone you to death and out your fire :lol:

  44. no way
    July 1, 2011

    what all u want bella to tell d young lady be gay and proud. dog ways allu have satti salop ki zor yea

    • a random dude
      July 1, 2011

      its clear that u havent been reading anything bella have posted except this article…. you say and i quote” what allu want bella to tell d young lady be gay and proud” well i got a task for you… go the article named confessions of a gay thug… and then i got this question for you ” dont you now think that the young lady deserve a better answer?” hit me up

  45. natural dominican
    July 1, 2011

    hey hey bella don’t hate on the ladies appreciate…. it’s the batty boys that have to burn

  46. Pnuts
    July 1, 2011

    Reprobate Minds;Romans 1:28; how shameful.

    GOOD gowing Bella.

  47. Keys
    July 1, 2011

    Thanks for the mythology lesson Bella. Too bad, you didn’t answer Young Lady’s question. And please, Eve and Evette?!? That doesn’t have half the ring of Adam and Steve. Accept that you’re not actually a funny person Bella, it’ll be ok.
    *BTW, interested in a true historical fact? Until last week, the oldest descendant of human beings (ever found) was named Lucy.

    Dear Young Lady, You are not lost. You are merely being motivated to cheat on your chosen lover because you put your financial security in the hands of a man who wants sex in return for his ‘generosity’ (obviously). The pressure you feel to ‘give in’ is actually fear. The fear is motivated by the understanding that you’ll lose your financial provider if he learns the REAL reason why you’ve been holding out on him all this time. Support yourself Young Lady. When you do, you will be free to truly love your woman in the unconditional manner for which you claim.

    • oh boy
      July 2, 2011

      Thank you for having common sense. I love the mythology part.

    • nuts
      July 2, 2011

      you are so silly!! chosen lover? stupes.

  48. listening
    July 1, 2011

    BELLA YOU ARE NOT THE RIGHT PERSON TO BE GIVING PPL ANY ADVISE SINCE YOU SEEMS TO SOUND LIKE NOT AN OPEN MINDED PERSON AND NOT QUALIFIED TO GIVE ADVISE ON PPL SEXUAL PREFERENCE..THIS IS A DUMB ANSWER YOU GAVE THE YOUNG LADY.

  49. Anonymous
    July 1, 2011

    i have no problems with girl on girl action once a man can join in… In the begining there should be Adam, Eve and Evette…

  50. Annointed one
    July 1, 2011

    Perfect answer

  51. WANT TO KNOW
    July 1, 2011

    WHO IS BELLA REALLY?

    • Boss
      July 1, 2011

      :lol: Bella is an idiot who says whatever she feels like without reading twice or putting herself in someone else’s shoes. I wonder if Bella had training based on the responses she gives

  52. smh
    July 1, 2011

    Talk about homophobia and hypocrisy in this so called *God fearing country* Go ahead quote the bible on this one. I wish dominicans could form their own opinion about something and stop making statements based on * what they say* or * what they hear* Ignorance is bliss

  53. Glen Beck
    July 1, 2011

    AYE AYE but the woman want wood to bake she bread and getting tired wash plates let her go for wood shait man then a gain a little washin of plates can be sexy :-P

  54. hmmm
    July 1, 2011

    lol great reply Bella haha… you do easy :) :-D

  55. DNO fan
    July 1, 2011

    Lollollollol, woy, Bella u killing me @ work dere wii. But seriously, I expected a better response than dat coming from you. That was just unprofessional in every way. I more expected advice like that to come from the commentators.

  56. Muslim_Always
    July 1, 2011

    Please read below every column of Bella especially the last part, “the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.”

    Some Dominicans must learn basic literary before they deal with issues.

    • ?????
      July 1, 2011

      And your point being? So because she is ‘not necessarily an expert” and is providing her opinion, she is not responsible for what she writes? Get real ..if she can’t handle the responsibility associated with the job, she doesn’t need to be in the job. No one was condemning what she said – there’s a right way and a wrong way to say something. No one ask her to change in to lesbo…for her God created Adam and eve – fine…but she could have given a better response and still put her opinion based on the bible in there. It just goes to show how hypocrite Bella is…look at this response and think of her others! She is irresponsible in her advice. If she wants to give her opinion with no strength behind it – then she should be a regular commentator…not an advice columnist!!!!!!!!!!!

      this 1 liner doesn’t constitute advice… it constitutes an ATTACK on someone else;s belief. Christianity teaches love thy neighbour, not love only thy STRAIGHT NEIGHBOUR

    • 14 yr old
      July 1, 2011

      regardlesss of what the end sayin… people does still post things for her.. n if she can give a gay pardna professional advice.. she can do the same with the young lady.. case closed

    • Boss
      July 1, 2011

      well they wrong if they keep coming to Bella

  57. HMMMMM
    July 1, 2011

    the person hiding behind ‘Bella’ must be a true christian and most likely never sinned in his/her life. somebody is obviously confused and is seeking help. u claim to be an advisor so do ur damn job and be professional about it. homosexuality is no longer a secret because now politicians are even giving people the right to same-sex mariage. i am happily married to a man and even if i don’t condone what they do, i won’t judge them. the bible said ” who is without sin cast the first stone”. am wondering if one day u have a child who happens to be homo what ur so-called opinion would be then…..honestly Bella i don’t think this article is for u nah, because u are everything but neutral!!! stupes…

    • Faith
      July 1, 2011

      She’s not no true Christian…she didn’t get nothing last night and she vex de girl refusing what she well want!

      Bella read your job description again! I always knew you were unprofessional!!!

    • come on!
      July 1, 2011

      That doesnt mean that is it right. Does it? Who are we suppose to mimick? christ or politicians. Get real people. Not because it is accepted by the world we must accept it. God destroyed an entire city for that same reason. She gave the ethical biblically correct answer. All those offended by it then take it to God in prayer! THE BIBLE SAYS IT, I BELIEVE IT AND THAT SETTLES IT

      • Alas
        July 1, 2011

        THANK YOU VERY MUCH! everything that wrong people just accepts!!! soon they going to start accepting Murder

    • Alas
      July 1, 2011

      Bella never said that she didn’t see… the bible also says help your neighbours and Honest to god I actually like bella’s answer you know why? because I think that’s the only way people will understand… when some Tells it to them Rough! That’s what they like!

      i’m sure if she went on explain a bunch of you would have something to say. Against Blah Blah.

      Homosexuality is wrong! that’s why people were so afraid to tell other people thing like the same sex. Now Everybody accepting things that wrong! EVERYTHING THAT’S WRONG!

      that’s why I know God Coming Soon

  58. Muslim_Always
    July 1, 2011

    @Young lady: The first question you may ask yourself is whether you believe in God? If so, you may want to ask yourself what does divine law teach about fornication and adultery? After you have reflected on these questions they if you go contrary to the evidences presented to you then this is between you and that creator you claim to believe in.

    However, if you do not believe or acknowledge the Most High then as the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said, “If you do not have any shame then do as you wish.”

    • Alas
      July 1, 2011

      I Not a Muslim…BUT I LOVE THOSE WORDS!!!!

      everybody claim they believe in God… if they did then they wouldn’t be doing what they doing!

      • Muslim_Always
        July 1, 2011

        Thank you. Just keeping it real! :-D

      • Truth, Love, Peace
        July 4, 2011

        @ Alas

        I wholeheartedly endorse your comments. They are not God lovers but Satan lovers which is where they will end up with Satan eternally. God is taking note as contained in their hearts.

    • Mapwey
      July 4, 2011

      ahhhh shame…..even the muslim giving better advice than bella….well said bro, may u need to take over bella’s column :)

  59. I knew it..
    July 1, 2011

    Bella you have gotten tired..and need to get some well deserved rest, go reflect for a while, then in the mean time, go over all columns written to you, and the advise you provided, then in your next comeback!!!!!tell us if you have done some more good than bad.we will be your audience…we are the ones who should decide if you should continue….so prove us wrong..

    For this last advise was of POOR merits. 0%

    we are all waiting.

  60. Anonymous
    June 30, 2011

    very professional answer the people who say its unprofessional i wil pray for yall cause oh lord u aall will burn in hell!

    • a random dude
      July 2, 2011

      no one is sayin that bella is wrong…. true thats what the bible said…. but, this answer is very unprofessional… n u kno it.

      p.s… ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME!! and thankx for prayin for me :D

  61. 14 yr old
    June 30, 2011

    bella im only 14 yrs old… and i find ur answer very biased… for a lady who claims to be a councelor… i think u need to be more professional… wen is beff…. u always kno how and what to say professionally… seems like you does be talking from experience…. im not sayin that i disagree with ur statement… but for the article confessions of a gay thug… u had a better answer for the guy… so i think the young lady deserves a better answer

    • Dominican Queen
      July 1, 2011

      You not no 14 year old. In the begining God created Adam and Eve: not Adam and Steve, nor Eve and Evette.
      Very good answer

      • Glen Beck
        July 1, 2011

        IS THIS THE SAME QUEEN DAT WAS WITH BJ?

      • 14 yr old
        July 1, 2011

        yup yup… n believe it or not… i am 14

      • Nan
        July 1, 2011

        Go read your book and play some kind of video games or something what are you doing on this website ? Even giving opinion on sexual matters :mrgreen: Child what you know?

      • 14 yr old
        July 1, 2011

        @nan…. what i doin on this site… im the future of this island…. im tomorrow.. you are today… i am interested in the kinds of stuff that goes on on my island and what i see and hear is amazing… this is dno…. erryone has freedom of speech on here…. what do you kno?? hmmm after allu will say kids now adays doe care… buh hear sumting funny…. you tellin me go n read… buh you aself dosent even understand things be4 u open ur large mouth n say ting…. uptil now i havnt senn nun in this article about sex…. so i think u shud go n read a damn book.. then ull re-read the article and come back better than that… peace and love!!

      • Nan
        July 2, 2011

        @14year old I still maintain that is not the column for you. Child just me opening ‘My large’ mouth as you so respectfully put it. What the hell do I know about Children today ? Had absolutely no intention of disrespecting you. I assumeed that being so young you would not know enough about these matters to give your opinion and yes discussions about gay, lesbian etc is sexual matters. Maybe I assumed wrong, you probably know more that me
        about those matters. ‘Future of tomorrow’?
        Do you know that for sure ? Is your future promised to you ? 8-O

      • Anonymous
        July 2, 2011

        @nan… chhh.. .no disrespect or anything… but you doe hv ntn better to do? arguing with a 14 yr old… hmmm… dont u kno im on summer holiday?… i think u need to focus more on ur work… peace n luv!!

    • Muslim_Always
      July 1, 2011

      Read below every column of Bella especially the last part, “the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.”

      Some Dominicans must learn basic literary before they deal with issues.

    • Rochelle
      July 2, 2011

      @Nan

      I am a 14 year old too, and I found your comment was “not easy” as we Dominicans would say.

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      July 4, 2011

      14 year old this column is not for you. You are a child. Do not try to be an adult before your time. In other words, know your place as a child. Stay out of grown-ups business.
      You should not be commenting on it for you are underage. What do you know? What experience do you have to make a sensible comment?
      My advice to you is to keep your eyes in the books to study and eventually excel and graduate that you may obtain a legal and stable job. This is your business for now. You have no business commenting on this column.
      I do hope you are obedient to your parent(s). This is your time to learn obedience, love and respect for everyone in general.

  62. Concerned Dominican
    June 30, 2011

    That BELLA column must be a hoax. DNO, this is 2011 and you cannot have people giving other people such unprofessional advice as this. It’s not only professional but it’s not in sync with the helpee way of life.

    I think DNO should pull that “BELLA Column” from your site, cause as a person who travels around the world is does not give professional advice. Caramba!

    Thank You very much!

  63. Rochelle
    June 30, 2011

    Bella, I’m not happy with your STUPID response at all… In the “Confessions of a Gay Thug” article, you help the batty-boy, but you NEVER tell him about homosexuality though.
    He wanted help because the partner wasn’t being discreet enough.
    She wanted help because she doesn’t feel positive about herself.
    Who for you to give your skeen advice you doesn’t give. RETARDED

  64. Rochelle
    June 30, 2011

    Bella, I’m not happy with your STUPID response at all… In the “Confessions of a Gay Thug” article, you help the batty-boy, but you NEVER tell him about homosexuality though.

    He wanted help because the partner wasn’t being discreet enough.
    She wanted help because she doesn’t feel positive about herself.

    Who for you to give your skeen advice you doesn’t give. RETARDED

  65. Unprofessional
    June 30, 2011

    I think Bella’s response was very unprofessional. I do not condone homosexuality, but if you are a professional you are supposed to keep your personal feelings in check.

  66. anticom
    June 30, 2011

    bella the way you answer that question awa wii i wonder if you aself not in your bussiness……………

  67. youth
    June 30, 2011

    Lol nice answer..love it

  68. *Jay*
    June 30, 2011

    Bella I find your advice to be very unprofessional. We always tend to quote the bible when it suits us. A young woman who recently asked for your advice because she had sex with a married man you tried your best to console her…..but did you mention to her that its in the ten commandments about adultery etc etc? These people are human and they need someone to talk to. I am not gay but the world is evolving around us and we must try to accept people for who they are and leave all judgement to god. How many things did the good Lord tell us not to do and we do? To each man his own…. The person asked for advice not your view on homosexuality.

  69. true dominican
    June 30, 2011

    Della and all off u go to hell if there was a a fee to pay every body would shout up. Della if u have advice to give tell it to uwp that would be a good job with that crap my boyfriend this ,my boyfriend that ,who so ever go to hell .

  70. Juice
    June 30, 2011

    Bella the confused woman asked for your advice and your advice was short, sweet and to the point ! Keep it up and ignore some of these fools you can never please everybody especially those ‘holier than thous’ coming on DNO. Don’t sugar coat your advice. Who don’t like it too damn bad ! I guess you hit a nerve when you said God created Adam and Eve not Eve and Evette, because some of them are undercover Carpet Munchers ‘Ouch’ :mrgreen:

    • Anonymous
      July 1, 2011

      juice u are a fool a big ass one. :twisted: the lady ask for help. bella is even more hypocrite. u think at this stage we dont knw that God created adam and eve, the same God who created hermaphrodites.

      • Juice
        July 1, 2011

        NO ANONYMOUS AT THIS STAGE ALL OF U ARE INDEED CONFUSED AND DO SOMETIMES FORGET EVERYTHING ABOUT GOD EXCEPT WHEN ITS CONVENIENT THEN WE LIKE TO RUN AND CALL HIS NAME AGAIN WHEN ITS CONVENIENT AND NO MATTER WHAT THE HELL BELLA SAY WILL NEVER SATISFY FOOLS LIKE YOU ANONYMOUS :twisted: LIKE YOU :twisted: YOU ALL ARE SO DISGUSTED WITH BELLA’S ANSWER BUT THAT COLUMN SEEM TO BE YOUR FAVOURITE PIECE OF READING MATERIAL :mrgreen: ass FOR REAL CHA :mrgreen:

  71. jib-jab
    June 30, 2011

    BELLA U HIT IT ON THE HEAD, RIGHT NOW A MARRIED MAN AND HIS WIFE IS AT EACH OTHER FOR THE VERY SAME THING HE ALLOWED HIS WIFE TO BRING A WOMAN INTO THEIR BED NOW HE WANTS TO KILL HER,THIS YOUNG LADY IS A FREAK TAKE YOUR MAN WHEN YOUR GIRL COME PRETEND IT WAS UN TOUCH NASTY FREAK . 7.5 NOTHING LIKE A GOOD WORKEY, NO LICKEY LICKEY WOODY WOODY

  72. Robert Hagedorn
    June 30, 2011

    Adam and Eve? For a surprise, do a search: First Scandal.

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      July 4, 2011

      Robert Hagedorn, look to your ancestors to today. What do you have to say about them?

  73. Jahknow
    June 30, 2011

    And so it turns out Bella is an unprofessional idiot. At least now I know never to pay attention to any of your advice anymore.

  74. Sandra Baptiste
    June 30, 2011

    Dear Bella, I am now convinced that you are full of shit. The woman chose to ask you about the love issues and you are telling her the God did not make ‘Eve and Evette’! who made Evette? you are throwing your prejudices on her… you wish to Cookie cut her your liking and not to what would make her happy. Do direct your writers to what would contribute to the improvement of their health, happiness and living in harmony with others. You are certainly not a councilor.

  75. hmmmmmm
    June 30, 2011

    woyyyyyyy bella you made my day..lol lol lmao

  76. CaCa Chat La
    June 30, 2011

    great answer Bella
    my god great great

  77. A A
    June 30, 2011

    But Bella…. I find you come out…

  78. Twisted Minds
    June 30, 2011

    Girl, whether you like woman, man or animal stay away from those long distance relationships, especially if there is no plan to go meet them soon for good.

    Best you find another girl or man at home and avoid the infidelity issues that are caused by loneliness.

  79. LOOKER
    June 30, 2011

    WELL SAID BELLA, IT IS TIME THAT THOSE TYPES OF SODOM AND GOMORRAH BEHAVIOUR STOP RIGHT AWAY. YOU WERE SHORT AND TO THE POINT. I LIKE THAT. IT SHOWS THAT YOU DO NOT CONDONE SUCH ACTS.

  80. trixxi 101
    June 30, 2011

    :twisted: bella u is jus an a** u cannot tell de gurl dat u mayb all in ur ting too

  81. Dominican girl
    June 30, 2011

    That is some really bad advise! Who are you to pass judgenment on someone? Your job is to give advise, not judge!

  82. for real
    June 30, 2011

    well sais, bella

  83. mrs
    June 30, 2011

    i think all three of you guys should hook up
    “threesome” :wink:

  84. Bella Hella
    June 30, 2011

    Goodness me the rubbish that people write and read.. DNO is just inventing these stories and the gullible people response to such nasty crappy shit

    • Juice
      June 30, 2011

      So Bella Hella what are you doing on such a crappy website ? Are you slumming with the rest of us gullible people ? responding to nasty crappy shit like the rest of us ? :lol:

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      July 4, 2011

      @ Bella Hella

      Prove it! :twisted: :twisted:

  85. Anonymous
    June 30, 2011

    Thank you Bella. For once i like your advice.

  86. Shai
    June 30, 2011

    Bella You Damn Right. God Made adam & eve not eve and evette. Go Bella!

  87. SIGH
    June 30, 2011

    Wow “Bella,”

    It isn’t your job to pass judgment on those who require your advise. How dare you make such an unprofessional statement. Rather than preach your “Adam and Eve” agenda, how about you preach fidelity, and tell the young lady to be faithful to her partner? And if she knows she cannot control her feelings then it may be best to break it off with the person that she’s with? People have conflicting hearts all the time. She risks hurting both people and herself in the process. Tell her to follow her heart and make the right decision.

    I understand the whole being gay is unnatural and a sin, but who are you to make such a statement?! Unbelievable! Deplorable!

    • CaCa Chat La
      June 30, 2011

      you confuse the world out of me
      she has the right to her own opinion right

      • SIGH
        June 30, 2011

        Maybe you’re confused because you can’t read all too well? Read my comment again and maybe get a dictionary.

  88. Mr Sout City
    June 30, 2011

    Very unprofessional response.

  89. Tomian
    June 30, 2011

    First of all Bella you are so hypocrite! This young lady asked for advice not judgement. Well young lady u need to make up your mind.
    Look at it that way, if you were in love with a woman there is no way you should have any feelings for this man friend of yours. I don’t think that you are gay i think u became comfortable in this relationship of yours and now it might be time you stepped out of this comfort zone. You need to sort out your feeling and decide who you want MAN or WOMAN.

  90. tea
    June 30, 2011

    Thats Bella’s advice to the young lady… This young lady has two choices she can either accept it or look for another opinion…

  91. 7.5" growin
    June 30, 2011

    Okay Bella good advise.
    to Confused, What happen to lolo u doh want it, as u can see i’m 7.5″ and growin check me….

    • HMMMMM
      July 1, 2011

      I AM ONLY WONDERING WHY U WOULD BRING THESE ‘ROADSIDE’ RESPONSES HERE!! CHAAAAAA…SOME OF U ARE REALLY SHAMELESS!!

  92. Anonymous
    June 30, 2011

    Bella! If that’s how you respond to persons seeking genuine advice from a professional, then I think you also need some counseling.

    • 7.5" growin
      June 30, 2011

      lol, But, I mean how can she be in love with a woman, when God created Adam and Eve…
      So are you saying you support these things.

  93. true that
    June 30, 2011

    well said bella

  94. Anonymous
    June 30, 2011

    good bella

  95. Hope
    June 30, 2011

    :-D I really like Bella today

  96. CITEZEN
    June 30, 2011

    WOW BELLA! I ALWAYS THOUGHT YOU WRERE AN IDIOT WHEN IT CAME TO GIVING ADVICE. THANKS FOR PROVING ME RIGHT. WELL DONE!!!!

  97. June 30, 2011

    WOW…what an uncalled for response from Bella.

    SMells of homophobia!!!!! We are living in a world which preaches tolerance and acceptance.

    Everyone wants to quote the bible when it suits them. In the same time that the bible preaches of acceptance, love thy neighbor, it also teaches about homosexuality and the likes.

    What makes us as humans determine when to apply which sections of the bible! a BUNCH OF HYPOCRITES. If we are going to judge and condemn others – we should start with ourselves. ALL SIN IS SIN – a man having sex with a man or woman with woman is just as bad, a sin, as someone lying, cheating, stealing – IT WRONG BECAUSE THE BIBLE SAYS ITS WRONG. The bible to my knowledge doesn’t say 1 sin is greater than another sin.

    I am not gay, I believe that it is wrong, but at the same time, i also believe that each man is responsible for his own soul… and i can’t JUDGE a man’s actions when i’m in the same boat – A SINNER.

    While some people are busy preaching that homosexuality is wrong, they are practicing adultery, fornication, lying, stealing, you know – the other vices.

    So, all i’m asking is that Bella be more responsible in her responses to persons who are seekign advice. Bella is entitled to say that she disagrees with homosexuality – however the way she said it is unprofessional and irresponsible.

    She has failed to provide constructive criticism or advice.

    Come again Bella.

    • KAYA
      June 30, 2011

      I totally agree with you. Bella is supposed to be unbiased and that response sound very personal opninion.

      • Hope
        June 30, 2011

        Who do you think Bella is? A robot? Stupz. Bella has beliefs just like everyone else.Practise the tolerance that you all so often speak of and respect Bella and i views.

    • Hope
      June 30, 2011

      The world preaches tolerance BUT God’s word teaches Truth, Morality. We must tolerate your lifestyles but you have difficulty tolerating our beliefs. Good going Bella.

      • I'mWondering
        June 30, 2011

        Curious as to what exactly your beliefs are, does it even include “love thy neighbour”

        And yes – God’s word teach truth and morality and my question to you is this “do you abide by that truth and morality? when you look in the mirror – do you see the truthful and moral person which God’s word intended you to be?”

        Well, let’s me tell you – you’re human like me, the homosexual, the bisexual, the transexual – therefore, using GOD in your argument doesn’t make it stronger. It just shows a lot of hypocritcal attitudes and contrary beliefs to that smae truth and morality which you talk about.

        I realsie that you comment about tolerating your belief is general, but who says gays do not tolerate your beliefs? Many believe in the same God you are talking about. Like you, they just choose to use selective perception. They choose to apply the parts which they want to apply. And that my dear is human nature and what makes you, the gays, and the idea of truth and morality the SAME – you all apply it when you want to suit you!

  98. puff
    June 30, 2011

    sorry “advise”

    • Hope
      June 30, 2011

      Tell that to God since it is straight from his Word!

  99. puff
    June 30, 2011

    Bella you’re way off. i dont agree with gay this or gay that. you’re an advice columnist so advice on the people’s questions not your own personal beliefs… you’re obviously in the wrong line of work. ignorant

    • June 30, 2011

      Very IGNORANT

    • Hope
      June 30, 2011

      Bella gave advice you just don’t like the advice given……..then the homo crowd turns around and criticises us! Please! Just because you don’t like it doesnot mean its not advice

      • HMMMMM
        July 1, 2011

        u need to take a dictionary and look up the word ‘advice’..that was just a senseless statement!!! god created adam and eve, not eve and evette. u seeing an advice there?? why u pple just can’t accept when something is not right. if bella wanted to
        give an advice based on her opinion he/she could do it without being so harsh. in the world we living in i just think that some of us should not use the bible as a weapon. gays are people just like us and i know it’s wrong but who am i to judge?? people like u and bella just feel allu can take God job in his hands!!

      • Mapwey
        July 4, 2011

        that is not advice if u ask me; i am a councilor myself and i deal with all kinds of people; gay bi str8 lesbos…etc as much as bella gave her opion she could also give the young lady something to think about

    • Hope
      June 30, 2011

      You do not like Bella’s advice and that makes her a bad columnist? And then you have the audacity to speak of ignorance! My word!

  100. la beauty
    June 30, 2011

    very interestin story today bella..i’m impressed :) . now this young lady is a LESBIAN. and she should leave the man for ladies like me who need a man :lol:

  101. Oh well,
    June 30, 2011

    See how many people support homosexuality? Bella is right, there is nothing confusing going on and by the way people aren’t born gay. Anyone who is gay or have the fantasy in mind has learnt it from someone else somewhere along the way and has accepted it as natural and therefore are very bold with it too. It is wrong my people, a sin unto death. You were warned. Fear God, Not man.

    • UNKNOWN
      June 30, 2011

      I AGREE .. NOWADAYS WOMAN GOIN WID WOMEN .. NOT CAUSE DEY WAS BORN NO WAY .. DEY PULL UP WID FREIENDS DAT TRY IT AND CONVINCE DEM TO DO IT .. THATS HOW DEY GET IN DAT .. NOT NO WAY DEY WERE BORN .. CAUSE I KNOW SOME AND THEY USE TO TAKE MAN .. OR DEY TAKIN MAN AND WOMAN ..

  102. Oh well,
    June 30, 2011

    Everything in the world has an opponent, or some sort of opposition. Left has right. Narrow has wide. Deep has shallow. Cock has hen. Penis has vagina. Lion has lioness. Prince has princess. Comfort has loneliness, so find a man who is gay just like you and both of you will eventually live a straight life that’s pleasing to God and morality.

  103. Anonymous
    June 30, 2011

    IDIOTIC ADVICE. Dominicans are too homophobic and must wake up to reality..People are born that way no one wants to be gay in such a society where one is ridiculed from childhood. ONE IS BORN THAT WAY..Please have love in your heart for people who are born that way..

    • I
      June 30, 2011

      The woman is not gay. She has feelings for the guy. She wasn’t born that way at all. She just gave in to a lifestyle because everyone now says it’s ok. If she was homosexual she would not be “giving in” to a guy.

    • Hope
      June 30, 2011

      Fools seldom differ

    • Hope
      June 30, 2011

      What is Love? Stop throwing the word around. If i love you i must correct you when you are going wrong

  104. Chiensal
    June 30, 2011

    Bella though I agree 100% with what you said. I am very dissapointed that, thats all you had to say. You made it seem like Gays and Bisexuals should not ask you for advise. They are humans too you know. I think you should have said more and point the young lady in the correct direction.

    • Hope
      June 30, 2011

      How much more correct you can get than the Word of God. Let them crucify you Bella. They got the message…….and that is what is important. God’s way opposes homosexual behaviour and if any one has a problem with that they must take it up with him.

      • hmm
        June 30, 2011

        I see where both of you are coming from.
        Bella your answer was short and to the point. I even laughed I was searching for the rest of it when I realized that was it. lol. Anyway, as this young lady is leaning towards a relationship with a man I think if you felt so strongly about her being a lesbian you should have said that being with a man is a better path as opposed to her present sexual orientation. Also, I assume from your response that you stand from a biblical perspective, if so, seeing that being gay is wrong you should have also told her that fornication is wrong with the man or the woman. All sin is sin! Neither is greater.

        P.s I always look forward to your columns. This one made me laugh :lol:

    • HMMMMM
      July 1, 2011

      u couldn’t have said it better!! u can just see from bella’s statement that he/she hates gays. everyone has a right to their opinion but that’s not a way to give advice!

  105. Anonymous
    June 30, 2011

    Thumbs up bella

  106. Ian
    June 30, 2011

    Well Bella you didnt have to shame the woman so nuh? But i love the comment. She want woman…she want man…jess now she will want u man Bella?

  107. Anonymous
    June 30, 2011

    TRUE WORD OF ADVISE MISS BELLA.

  108. stupes
    June 30, 2011

    bella,
    she didn’t ask you to verify her sexuality. stop being ignorant

    • June 30, 2011

      Trust me…everytime Bella pisses me off! Wants to give advice and can’t be “professional” in the approach.

      Deems the whole idea of the column. Ignorant is an understatement!!!!!

      I’m not gay – but this was uncalled for.

      • Hope
        June 30, 2011

        Why are you so upset?

      • Mapwey
        July 4, 2011

        amen; i mean if u call urself a columist u do the job; really and truely uncalled for very bias

    • July 4, 2011

      true to dat …… :wink:

  109. Jade
    June 30, 2011

    @ Young Lady: I dont think you are confused about what you should do, i think you are confused about what your sexual preference is are you GAY or are you STRAIGHT..make up your mind sister. You sound confused because if you say you are in love with a woman, means you are gay so therefore even if a man should stand in front of you naked that should not turn you on further less for you to be thinking of doing him…sister you want MAN or WOMAN? thats what you should be deciding first…MAKE UP YOUR MIND

    • Me
      June 30, 2011

      This just proves that nobody is born that way, they are gay for different reasons. Some were molested very young, some follow fashion and some just too oversexed they always wanna try the next best thing. She is not gay she is experimenting, could be some man let her down so she turn to woman but somehow the woman away and maybe cannot provide. The woman into everything. PS those who wanna waste their breath to call me homophobic or ignorant, dont waste your time, its just a psychotic behavoir, lol!

    • June 30, 2011

      She could be bi sexual – there is such a provision for people like her!

    • Jolie
      June 30, 2011

      I think this is the best answer to the problem. BELLA is just an ignorant idiot. I guess she is a member of BJ’s cult

  110. hmh
    June 30, 2011

    U YOU WANT MAN U WANT WOMAN U WANT MACO U WANT EVERYTHING?

  111. Baby Donkey
    June 30, 2011

    Well said Bella. Well said.

    • clarke
      July 11, 2011

      well said what!……u ppl are just sick, debating about sodomy bullshit!…like someone said in a comment above, he who has no sin cast the first stone. well im not casting stone, this is just bullshit.

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