DEAR BELLA: I’m too beautiful and decent to live in the ghetto

Dear Bella

Bella I am 16 years old and I have a problem. I think I am too upscale in my thinking to live in Stock Farm. I live in the ghetto and I am not ashamed to say that I was raised there.

But now I attend a popular high school and I have friends who live Wallhouse and Castle Comfort even Morne Daniel. Bella when I visit them their homes are posh and nice.  Mine is a little two by four.

I honestly never allow them to visit me because  I am ashamed of my home. I know my mom is doing her best and I don’t want to leave her alone because she needs me. But Bella I am just too beautiful and decent to continue living there.

I have an aunt in Giraudel. I want to go live there instead. Do you think I should leave? Or should I stay because of my mom?

That Child

Hello That Child

Nothing is wrong in wanting to move from the ghetto but note that the ghetto has raised some descent people. It has to do with one state of mine and your reason for wanting to leave perhaps isn’t right.

You should work towards getting a good education which in turn could provide you with a good paying job and then perhaps you can move your mom out of Stock Farm.

I sense a level of selfishness and some immaturity in your reasoning and as time progresses I hope it goes away.

Trying to impress your friends is pathetic but honoring your mother may allow things to go well with you.

I hope this is clear enough. And in case it isn’t, don’t move to Giraudel because of the reasons you stated above. Let moving be as a result of something drastic, not because of some selfish desire to live a life just to impress people.


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  1. Island person
    October 29, 2019

    How do you contact Bella. I have something that I need advice on.

    ADMIN: You can send an email to

  2. Me
    October 15, 2019

    If you want something else, use it as inspiration to work harder. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to improve yourself and your living conditions but you must work for it yourself and not expect others to provide it, as some do.

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  3. Efficacious
    October 15, 2019

    Young Miss, you mentioned the word decent and what insult comments. The answer to your question lies with your mother. Never underrate mothers. It goes like this. Mom ,I found a way to better my life styles and to improve my living standard, if I have to accept, it means that I have to leave you, so, who is going to look after you?

  4. Frank N Stein
    October 15, 2019

    In a way I blame the parents. You have to groom your children to be proud of who they are and where they come from. You do that at an early age. Let them know that its ok to not live in a big house but if they do well, get educated and skilled they too can live in a big house in the future.
    Nobody will care about how beautiful you are men will just use you for it if you have no substance. Humble and smart is what will get you successful not vanity. Parents need to show children at an early age that if their friends cant accept them as they are these are not friends. Stop trying to impress people, cuz at the end of the day all you have is yourself.

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  5. Arri Mayers
    October 14, 2019

    Ghettos are in America. We live in villages and communities. Your little 2×4 may be more of a home, that those big fancy houses in the heights and terraces.

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  6. October 14, 2019

    @That Child, I am glad that you have relatives in Giraudel, and you don’t think it is a ghetto. I am from Giraudel and I love my home village.

    But your reason for wanting to move there does not sound right–it sounds more like causing your mother to feel shameful; you said that you are now attending a popular school, don’t think she helped you to get to that point?

    I admit the Giraudel is a beautiful village to live in,
    but don’t put shame on your mother by leaving her to go and live someplace else (not even my beautiful Giraudel) because you think that you are now living in a place that is too low for you.

  7. Allen Prose
    October 14, 2019

    Keep your head up and keep working hard. One day everything will fall into place for you. You should think of yourself as the light in that ghetto and a living inspiration to all those who feel the same way as you..

    Circumstances don’t make you, choices do.

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  8. A View From The Side
    October 14, 2019

    As our fellow posters have stated, “your environment does not define you”.

    You, as a soon to be young adult, have an opportunity to escape your current ghetto living predicament.

    Also, know that the ghetto is home to countless folks who have learnt how to be very resourceful while making the most of a severe lack of resources.

    Remember, The Most High did not give us a spirit of fear, but of a sound mind. Use it wisely to plot your escape from the ghetto.

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  9. magway ca
    October 14, 2019

    the sad truth is that the way u thinking your gonna end up meeting a man with money. he is gonna use u and when u get pregnant he is gonna leave you fora younger better looking model. a young girl like you and your that self centred and believe u to beautful to be leaving where u are with hard working parents?

    i would not be surprised if in a few years time you write back to bella saying that you met a man you thought loved you and then he dumped you and left you with nothing for a younger model

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  10. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    October 14, 2019

    How can you call Stock Farm Ghetto? I live in Stock Farm and there is decent. Please specify which Ghetto you live.

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    October 14, 2019

    YOU can be fooled very easily. You are just a MATERIAL THING GIRL!
    Render your soul not your garment,

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    • Bwa-Banday
      October 14, 2019

      Finally The KID has said something beyond my comprehension :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

      The KID is begining to think like a human being and not like an AS according to Petter St. Jean. Oh how great it is that the blind can sometimes see the light hence influencing his behaviour positively. Hopefully that translates to political light on the brother and he can join the movement for change 8) 8) 8) . Lets us continue pray for him…Our father, who art in heaven……….

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  12. Patriot
    October 14, 2019

    Young lady let me let you know, where you live does not define you. Your CHARACTER defines you. Whether you live in a palace or a “shack” is doesn’t matter what you can become.

    Have you scrutinized the CHARACTERS AND MORALS of your friends? They may live in “posh” places and homes, but you could achieve more educationally and otherwise than them. If there were to visit your home and business of your Two by Four, they don’t want to be your friend, they were never TRUE FRIENDS anyway.

    As it pertains to the beauty part of your letter! All I will say beauty is from within.
    Please stay and your mom’s house and help her the best you can.

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  13. Maybe
    October 14, 2019

    Girl you are very selfish I raise poor get a education and I work and build a mansion that’s where my mom and I leave cause my father pass away when I was young stop your selfish ways and stay positive dont believe in material believing in your self is the best

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    • Inquisitive
      October 14, 2019

      I’d imagine someone who got an education to type with a lot less grammatical errors and misspellings, but go on. Lol

  14. Man bites dogs
    October 14, 2019

    Young lady you are so right hold your head up high educate yourself to the highest level and when an opportunity comes take it never walk away from it, : One last point if i may do not allow anyone taking advantage of you the ghetto is no place to be good luck 👍

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  15. Obz
    October 14, 2019

    StockFarm is not a ghetto.. She’s Thinking of Yampiece or Tarish pit? :-|

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  16. viewsexpressed
    October 14, 2019

    1. I sense a level of selfishness and some immaturity in your reasoning and as time progresses I hope it goes away.
    Response: I fully concur with Bela and in addition I am wondering what is the composition and nature of your family. You need to also consult with your parents to have that level of strong convict and awareness as growing a child. Don`t be worried, enjoy your environment, your home, your friends.
    2. I honestly never allow them to visit me because I am ashamed of my home.
    Response: I was raised in a two bedroom house with my parents (both educators) in Potterville with nine children and sometimes one from country. We had fun, we got engaged in our church, youth group, scouts, theatre at school etc. I read Bella’s points and really digested what she said. Great stuff. for those in need of direction.
    “Hello That Child”, you are Gods Child and I bet your parents love you dearly. Be patient. I went to 2 colleges, 2 Universities, my career start in Government, in…

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    • Man bites dogs
      October 14, 2019

      @Viewsexpressed why the hell you do not move to the ghetto is this all the advice you can give no wonder most white people look down on people’s like you, Do you realise a tree must have strong roots to provide fruits for all?? 🤔 Think about it.

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      • Nous Meme
        October 14, 2019

        man bites dogs…………REALLY?? You found issues with the advice and op[inion from Viewsexpressed? the same that most others expressed to help this young lady? You must be flea bitten and possessed in your cranium!!!

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      • My opinion
        October 14, 2019

        But waitttttt.. who is this a..hole???? Well since u agree that the ghetto is such a degrading place to live why dont you provide a better home???

        Girl get your act together eh.. and get yourself educated..

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      • DAPossieMasse
        October 15, 2019

        Is that not her mother is trying to do, to instill good roots in her, based on what she wrote about her mother, and her struggles. Are you trying to suggest that her mother is not trying to instill roots in this selfish, arrogant, poor mentality little girl.

        Why would anyone want to move to the ghetto if they have the means? Well had some of us been more clairvoyant, we would have invested in the world’s most famous ghetto: Harlem, USA. So you see. moving to the ghetto is not all bad as you seem to suggest. But with your apparent COOLOUT, and based on what you wrote above, you have enough to remain out of the ghetto.

  17. DApossieMasse
    October 14, 2019

    As an educator, I have seen some of my best students who were on welfare and came from the projects attend some of the best universities in America. Your friends may come from the fancy homes, but do you know whether they are happy and receive the love you get from your mother?

    Your aunt should not take you in because you are an ungrateful and arrogant little girl believing you are too beautiful to be in the ghetto? It is not about where you live, it is about what is in your head: your arrogant belief about your features. You better be careful because it is young women like you who get in deep trouble, and get taken advantage of and dumped.

    I have seen so many beautiful women on the street corners and wonder how did they get there. You just answered that question for me. If you do not quickly humble yourself and try to accept what your mother in working hard to give to you, you will find yourself some real and serious difficulties in life.

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  18. Relatable
    October 14, 2019

    I’ve been in a similar situation before, feeling like my friends were “up there” and I wasn’t. Until I realized that my friends never once judge me for that. My girl allow them to see where you living self, if they are true friends you won’t feel ashamed about it around them. As for thinking you’re too beautiful to live there, that mindset might not get you far. Why not show ppl that something beautiful can in fact come from there? I not saying to settle for less if you feel like living conditions could be better, but if is that it have for the time then so be it. One day you will be contented with your environment and feel even better about it because you upgraded yourself on your own.

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  19. pal_lotte
    October 14, 2019

    Marry a Karam or an Astaphan.

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    • Superg
      October 14, 2019

      can always marry the PM son as well .. lol

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      • Dixie Normas
        October 14, 2019

        @Superg Lennox son to young! 8) 8)

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