Bella
I am all into giving and supporting people in need. Don’t get me wrong. I am a very generous person. But I have a problem with the fact that ALL my husband’s support seems to be leaning on this one young lady.
I found out by accident that he pays for a house that she is now living in. I wouldn’t say she is a friend of our family but she has always been my husband’s friend.
He said since she was in high school, he looked out for their family. And honestly even before we were married, he was indeed close to their entire household.
Now this girl has grown up and is now about 27. She moved out of her mothers’ home and now lives alone.
She works at a store in town and I know they don’t pay too much money so my husband said he was paying her rent until she can find greener pastures.
I happened to find out about the luxurious apartment that she was renting and asked him how she could afford it when she just works in that Chinese store in town.
He “mahmoete” and then he admitted he pays it for her until she travels to St Thomas. I never even knew the girl had Visa but anyway…
Then I found a grocery bill in his wallet of over $700. I am the one who does groceries Bella. So, I asked him about it and he said well he helps her with food every month.
Bella, I don’t like the vibes I’m getting. I asked him if she doesn’t have a man to help her. He said “no”.
A beautiful young woman like that has nobody in Dominica? Unless that somebody is my husband.
I am not a troublemaker Bella but something happened last week that really have me angry. I went by a certain hire purchase store to take something for my brother. His workplace doesn’t do salary deductions so I told him I would take it on my name and he pays me.
When they asked me for a reference, I gave them my husbands name. When the woman put his name in the system she said “ok we already have his contact info and location”
So, I inquired how was my husbands name in a system that we never used to buy stuff. We never took stuff on hire purchase before. Everything at home was bought cash.
The woman said well he bought sofa, fridge, stove and even a queen size bed on hire purchase months ago.
The same time this girl got the house. I asked him and he said well he helped her because her salary was small.
Bella I can’t take this anymore. I am having the feeling to go to that woman house and confront her and smash all the things in her house.
Am I being overzealous?
Disturbed Wife
Disturbed Wife
I truly understand your anger and concern but what I don’t understand is your desire to confront the woman and not your husband.
All the rage that you feel should be leveled at your husband who clearly seem to be the one you should be concerned with.
He is the one living at your home and he seem to be taking pleasure in helping this family friend.
He hasn’t lied to you. He admitted to doing these things so that’s a start. Another man would lie his way out of that situation.
So now that you have a confession-sort of-, you take it from there.
Let your husband know you are very concerned about his behavior. He is obviously being too generous. And if this woman is travelling soon as he told you, why put yourself in so much expense?
I believe your husband needs to tell you the full story. I don’t think confronting the woman is best at this time. Or at any time as a matter of fact. Leave the young lady alone and direct all your attention towards the man you married.
Uhmmmm so ma”am can I borrow your husband? I have some bills I need help with
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Confronting him will not work! Confronting the woman will not work.
Just relax, “assist” a “friend” and give him the same response when he questions you. Let him process that.
This story sound a lot like fiction, or maybe both your husband and yourself are multimillionaires, especially you never mentioned that the kinds of spending your husband is doing for someone else is affecting your household maintenance.
$700. 00 for food every month sounds like an exaggeration, for who spend that amount of money for foot–especially in Dominica.
Then you mention furnishing the house and paying the rent–none of this sounds like what a husband would do. It doesn’t matter how long and how close he has been to that person. I just don’t believe your complaint
Read properly she found a bill in his wallet. It doesn’t say a month. I go and buy groceries and almost 4 hundred dollars and two little plastic bag. I believe the man have his money. These men take proper care of the outside woman. I know that because i use to be in a same situation. And every week is over 300 on food. that 1200 for the month. Trust me…Its quite possible. But check this…he took the stuff on hire purchase so maybe there’s truth to it.
The figure on the receipt does not have to be true, all you read is her words; how do you know that she is not exaggerating? $700. 00 a month for food and in addition, her rent payment, could be at least $2000.00 plus furnishing her unit, what kind of wife would so easily accept that kind of outside spending from her husband?
That is why I said that him and her have to be a multiple millionaire, if that story is the truth.
Real talk Bella. Can’t say it better.
If he is not the Daddy then he is the Sugar Daddy
No man would be doing all that for a woman out of generosity
My lady your husband is having an affair plain and simple
Well young lady stop being stupid! That woman is your cor-boss or in other words your husband side piece. Sad thing is she seems to be a very expensive one and your hussy is not being honest. Not telling you what you should do but may I ask a question? Have you ever considered a three way relationship? Hey, the young lady have needs too and as long as your hussy can afford and has the strength for two then give it serious consideration. You may just loveeeee it
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Sharing is caring and since she is on her way to St.Thomas what’s the big deal.
True bella good advise..he was at least honest but somebody just cannot have a man for themself eh..it impossible me not getting something just impossible..them men there smh…at least that one tell it too u straight …allu irie man..sounds.like a well off family.. everything cash…help out the young lady eh once is no strings attached…I highly doubt it
Lady get a life you can’t go to the woman place talk to your husband cause if is me and you come in my place by the time I finish with you they would airlift you to Martinique
Is so they like it…until these women start walking on their head they wont learn to live married men alone. Yes she has to confront the man but the woman should not be givibg into the man too
When you discover you husband is giving her “hard wood”, or helping her with the plumbing, he can tell you again he helping her until she can get of her feet. Foolishness at it highest.
Well , I would love to be in the position of that young lady papa. Knife and fork just fight for dumpling. Why did she move out of her parent home and cant afford anything to put in her home. Food for thought no man feeding pig for a next butcher to come and kill it.
Regards
well that husband of yours have money papa
Is that I saying🤣🤣
hahahaha that comment just killed me! But it is true. How a man has so much money? $700 for groceries per month for one woman? What??
i want to know that husband too
I suspect that husband is a minister in the government
