DEAR BELLA: My boyfriend won’t kiss me

Dear Bella,

My boyfriend won’t kiss me and I am beginning to become very concerned. We have been seeing each other steadily for the better part of 2 years and kissing was never an issue.

But these days, especially over the past three months or so, the man has just lost interest in kissing and being affectionate. Every time we decide to be intimate, he would skip the foreplay.

As a woman, I don’t like that. Women are into romance and I wouldn’t think it was a problem if that’s the way it has always been. When I ask him about it, he says he never liked kissing.

That’s weird because he used to love to kiss me. I take care of my hygiene.

I brush regularly and I know my breath isn’t the issue. But Mr. man just refuses to kiss me these days. And I have a problem. What do you think I should do?


No Kissing




Hello No Kissing,

I don’t ever recall having to struggle with a response but in this case, I’m a little bewildered. I believe sometimes when people get used to each other, they seem to want to bypass the lovey-dovey stuff and get straight to the “point” and indeed like you rightfully said, women are emotional beings and into romance and touchy stuff.

I can see why you would feel bad if your lover forgoes the real essence of lovemaking and it is something that would concern any woman.

Since you don’t buy his excuse about not liking kissing, examine the situation and see if you missed anything.

I would go back to him if I were you and try to get to the bottom of it. Is it that he has lost romantic feelings? Is he bored? Let him know you don’t believe his excuse that he all of a sudden hates kissing.

Remind him that he used to love kissing you in the past. I mean Covid cannot be an excuse since having sex is just as risky as kissing.

Let your partner tell you the truth. Otherwise, take a decision not to leap-frog into the third base without exploring the first and second base. What I’m saying is that if he cannot come clean about the real reason behind his 180 turn, and if he cannot be honest, then take your stance too. Plain and simple!



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  1. Man bite dogs
    September 15, 2022

    Maybe he is the problem buy him a toothbrush and mouthwash, and if that doesn’t work he is telling you he has another bird on the nest.

  2. Honestly
    September 15, 2022

    Let’s just be honest, let’s just be real….
    He won’t kiss up on you and you’re not the deal
    His tongue is twisting with someone else’s
    Tell him as it is and count your loses.
    Love between you and him was never an issue
    There’s someone else out there wanting to kiss you…

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  3. Legion
    September 15, 2022

    I think that she must have done something to kill his emotional attachment to her or he have have suspicions of unfaithfulness and no longer wants to put his lips on a mouth that is potentially sucking another 🍆.

  4. Juanita
    September 14, 2022

    @ No Kissing: have you been to the dentist lately? As a young adult, I had this issue with a very nice church guy I liked a lot, but could not bring myself to kiss him and had to break things off because of his dental hygiene. He thought it was strange, and I could not bring myself to tell him.

  5. Ebony
    September 14, 2022

    My girl visit the dentist and if that doesn’t work then it’s a lack of interest. Because some people’s breath have plenty lyrics and melody.

  6. Simple
    September 14, 2022

    Go Kiss him and see what happens this time around, be sure you are in the right mood. If he refuse then you should not let him even small your cherry far more to eat it. If you do well do not come and tell bella cuz you don’t like you.

  7. JJ
    September 14, 2022


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