I lied to my fiance, I am not a virgin

I am a 22-year-old from ..(name of village withheld to protect identity of writer) and have recently found myself in a dilemma. I have been dating the most amazing guy for almost six months now and our relationship is a dream come true.

He treats me like a queen and attends to my every need. He recently proposed to me and we plan on getting married in January next year.

I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but at the beginning of our relationship I told him that I was a virgin and we made a pact to save ourselves for marriage.

But before meeting my fiance, I was far from a saint and had sexual encounters with numerous men to get the things that I wanted. One can say that he saved me from the destructive path that I was heading down.

I am afraid that when we do become intimate and it is revealed that I am not a virgin he would leave me. I am in New York for a week picking up my wedding dress and shoes and I visited an African shop and the lady I spoke to gave me  a tea that I can drink that would make me tight as a virgin.

I am just scared that it will have side effects or it won’t work and my marriage will be based on a lie.

What should I do?

Confused

Dear Confused,

It is always sad when situations like this occur and it makes absolutely no sense to lie and keep lying to you fiance. If you continue on that path, your marriage will be built on a lie and as the old saying goes, “Whatever is hidden in the dark, must come out in the light.” Maybe by then it will be too late.

So now is the time to face the hard reality and be truthful to you fiance. No pill, no cream, no tea is going to hide the fact that you are not a virgin. Stop living in an illusion and be truthful to yourself and your fiance.

Bella

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173 Comments

  1. Sherri Evans
    January 23, 2015

    i have same problem but after my friend told me about myotaut serum and after i use that serum my vagina got tight like virgin girls and my husband also trust me that i am virgin.

    • Complications
      June 10, 2020

      Pls what do u say the name of the product is and where can I get it

  2. Thandiwe
    August 29, 2014

    Ok,but i’m scared

  3. Anonymous
    March 13, 2014

    Pray God z able,miracles cn hapen

  4. Rom
    May 27, 2013

    Jajaj, really good one, sorry I am reading this years after, but I have her solution, she just need to let her vagina like in the 70s all hairy, then tie together some pubic hair from each side of the vagina ( at least 4 or 5 form each side). The knot has to be exactly in the entrance of the vagina, when he try to get inside, he will have the resistance, you the pain, and If we are lucky Mmaybe some blood.

    Good luck with that, there’s always the option of coming foward

  5. March 13, 2013

    Hey if I was you, I will go have the Virgina surgery. Go get it done. That will save ur marriage. Okay?

  6. Choppy
    February 27, 2013

    A lie is a lie. The relationship is pretty much over. It started on a lie and the trust is gone. Virgin or not is not the issue. The lie is the issue. Do yourself and him a favor. End it now. You are just wasting time from here on out. Move on and tell the truth from now on.

  7. black
    March 2, 2012

    u just dumb imean come on u going to loose everything to a white lie a lie that should have never happen woman like that i fraid but the man is naive cause the older a woman gets the further the chances r of her being a virgin do the math n tell that clothes peg to get tested ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  8. Bubbles
    January 25, 2012

    So u mean to tell me that u givin all tht info about ur wedding n where u”re located expecting that he wud not find out? Bella that story is a lie. If it was me, i not saying where I’m located. Too much ppl does read “Dear Bella.” In d event tht this story is true den this girl is dumb as a rock and that’s how she will stay. Y lie about something that u cannot change? If he loves u den he loves u whether ur a virgin or not. So i clearly see that this relationship is based on a serious lie. D dude gonna be so disappointed. SMH!! :( I feel sorry for him. D dude choose to marry u cuz u say u a virgin. Alas.

  9. possie
    January 19, 2012

    boy them comments have all the kicks eh trust me hahaha zor once ur virginity is gone there is no way that it can be regained.. get that clear n another thing the closest u will get to ur virgin is a tight vagina…. so do wat u have to. i feel so sorry for ur padna though

  10. Jwr...
    December 7, 2011

    This is no surprise… most women i’ve met lie about being virgin. But as bella said no cream pill or tea will make you a virgin not even surgery… If you’re not a virgin only a foolish man will think you are still innocent after inspecting or playing in your puss* …i’m a doc — i see a lot of vaginas so go figure why it’s not possible to fool me.
    Before i got serious with my fiance, i asked her whether she was or not, she couldn’t answer right away but she admitted she weren’t because she realised it would be easy for me to know for sure if she was …and if she lied to me, when i make my move and find she’s not, i would dump her instantly. We’re still together and she’s so happy she spoke the truth that very moment i asked even though she felt pressured to do so.

  11. MALPARDEE
    December 5, 2011

    CORRECTION IN MY SENTENCE: RUN TO THE BATHROOM. TYPO ERROR SAID RUM.

  12. MALPARDEE
    December 5, 2011

    ALL U KILLING ME. OK SOME AMUSEMENT. FIRST OF ALL I DO NOT GET IT. U MEET A MAN HELLLOOO WE ALL HAVE SEX, WHY U HAVE TO GET TO POINT WHERE U HAVE TO TELL D MAN U ARE A VIRGIN. THAT MAKES NO SENSE. SO TELL ME, U CLAIM U VIRGIN NEXT THING U AND MAN NEVER HAD SEX. WHAT IF WHEN U START D MAN CANNOT SATISFY U. WHAT WILL U DO? I KNOW FORNICATION IS A SIN BUT U HAVE TO TEST D WATER FIRST. ON THE AFRICAN LADY NOTE. I LIVE IN NY AND MY FRIEND AND I WENT TO A STORE ONCE AND I SAW SOME PRETTY CANDIES IN A JAR HOPING TO PURCHASE SOME. NEXT THING ASKING LADY FOR CANDY SHE TELLING US THAT IS FOR GIRLS TO MAKE THEIR …… GET TIGHT FOR MEN. WE BURST OUT ONE LAUGH IN D STORE. IT WAS SO FUNNY. SO I KNOW SHE IS NOT MAKING UP ANYTHING ABOUT WHAT THE AFRICAN SAY. THEY DO HAVE THESE THINGS. DON’T KNOW IF IT WORKS, DON’T CARE CAUSE I DO NOT NEED IT. ALL U DO JUST SCREAM WHEN U HAVING SEX, BAWL SAY I WHOY EVERYTHING AND THEN RUM IN D BATHROOM WITH A PAD HAHHA JUST BEING FUNNY. YOUNG LADY, TELL THE MAN U WERE EMBARASSED TO TELL HIM U ARE NOT A VIRGIN THAT IS WHY U LIED TO HIM. PLEASE TELL HIM BEFORE U GET MARRIED. APOLOGIZE AND WHAT IS YURS IS YURS… FIRST ASK GOD TO HELP U THROUGH THIS AND THEN COME CLEAN.

    • Anonymous
      May 30, 2012

      lol …. excellent advise!

    • adama lee
      April 29, 2014

      Good advise and i think is high time we as women and girls to stop doing thing just to please men. am not saying its not good to do things that will please your man but in a more honest way, truthful and nor second or third party helping you. :wink:

  13. Anonymous
    December 3, 2011

    blue soap and sea water!!!!!!!!!! dats all u need… wink***

  14. Sisserou Fan
    December 1, 2011

    Reckless, you make me laugh, don’t you know that zootie scratching?

  15. Virgin again!!
    November 30, 2011

    My dear just bathe in blue soap from time to time, the end result will only be as tight as u want it if u increase use of the soap often. (More blue soap more tightness.)I just hope u wont see stars on your wedding night. Good Luck tan.

  16. Anonymous
    November 29, 2011

    so what happen a swamp u have it cannot close???

  17. Reckless
    November 28, 2011

    My girl staple that together on ur weddin nite or come up by me ill wash it with zootie for u. Hahahaahhahaha. Just to tell d man u not virgin awa wi and is man dat bad

  18. hmmmmmm
    November 26, 2011

    My girl you can drink a whole farm of that tea that virginity will never come back..its a one way out and no way back..just tell the man the truth if he truely loves you then he will understand..virgin tea lol lol lol lol lol….and i can just imagine. you mayb drinking that morning, noon and night..lmao poor you…

  19. Gaza
    November 25, 2011

    lol virgin pills lol da not selling man?

  20. xtreme
    November 24, 2011

    my girl there is no easy way of getting out of this one but as the saying goes the truth shall set you free be honest with the guy tell him the truth. If he finds out on his own you gonna loose all for all trust me

  21. 4 wat
    November 24, 2011

    lie about how many men u take but y lie about being a virgin whats the point….stupes

  22. SOUTY'
    November 24, 2011

    lol my girl even drink a tea wi boy hahahah

  23. Justice and Truth
    November 23, 2011

    Some women tell it all when they meet men. This is a grave mistake. It is not necessary to spill your heart and life out to a man.
    Men on the other hand like to know about the previous love life of their girlfriends. Some men withhold such information from their girlfriends. How do the girlfriends know that they are telling the truth?
    It is too bad she told him that she is a virgin and now has cause for concern. It must be making her unhappy. Now that she is preparing for her wedding, it is no time to have anxiety and be unhappy.
    She could have told him the truth that, she is not a virgin only. She did not have to divulge what type of life she previously lived. He probably is not an innocent man. Men like to know that their girlfriends are innocent when they were not in the first place.
    How did this conversation come about anyway that she had to inform him she is a virgin?
    She could have told him that she is not a virgin but that she has changed and wishes to wait for when they get married. He probably would have accepted that.
    If he is not well-acquainted with virgins and a woman being a virgin he may not find out that she is not a virgin.
    At this stage it will be difficult for her to decide whether to tell him or not. My advice to her is take her chances and pray that he does not find out that she is a virgin.
    Men tell lies too so if he finds out he should not be angry with her. What is it to do with him whether she is a virgin or not? I suppose it will be a triumph for him that he married a virgin.
    Lady, I wish you all the best.

    • Anonymous
      November 24, 2011

      She should have told him if he ever find out he might not be able to trust her again. and u talk about man lie…. u go looking for the wrong ones that what u get for looking for those on the street side with no work… go look for a real man

      • Justice and Truth
        November 24, 2011

        @ Anonymous

        What I stated, I meant it. Men do lie. One does not have to experience it personally.
        How many people, men or women do you know and I mean platonic friends, relatives too including co-workers or just mere acquaintances? How many people do you meet in the course of commuting to work, shopping or in a social circle? There are people who meet others, strangers and immediately poor out their heart to them. If you know them, you will hear a lot including what is relayed on TV and printed in the newspapers.
        Yes! Women lie but men lie too and in a bad way. Surely, whether you are a man or a woman, you are not pretending and hypocritical about that?
        I feel sorry for this woman who is faced with a dilemma. She should never have told him that she is a virgin. If he asked her, she should have asked him about himself.
        I can understand her situation but she now has a problem, should she tell him or not.
        There is such a thing as forgive and if he finds out he should forgive her.
        It is left to her if she wishes to tell him the truth prior to their marriage and bear the consequences.
        I am reiterating that the man may not be all that pure, holy and innocent. Why should he get angry with her and not trust her in the future?
        Ask yourself if he was not told and if he did not find out, would he prove to be a faithful husband in the end? Time tells for every one and time takes care of all. Hope your comprehend that. I speak the truth and do not water it down, pretend or be hypocritical. Therefore, let the truth be told.

    • Justice and Truth
      November 24, 2011

      :oops: Meant, pray that he does not find out she is ‘not’ a virgin.

  24. Anonymous
    November 23, 2011

    look jokes. lmao. wen allu doing it jus fake de pain.. make as tho it hurting u n act shy lolol.

  25. girlfriend
    November 23, 2011

    i feel your pain, that doesn’t mean that you are nasty.most of us go through things in life and then wonder why. but please tell him the truth.trust me if he loves you, it will work.just not to tell it to him just before the wedding.give him time to catch himself.don’t be rude, just listen and accept your wrong.ok chick?

  26. conscious
    November 23, 2011

    My dear…your village was hidden to protect your identity…but i hope you did not tell people you going new york to pick up your dress and whatever else..because, obviously… they will know who you are! Haha anyways with all that said and done…you done mash up d hymen it cant come back babygirl you done loose your virginity!

    • November 23, 2011

      DUR!
      I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING
      WOULDN’T HE KNOW YOUR ITINERARY?

  27. lucian
    November 23, 2011

    hesalop!!!!!!!!!!! so so funny…. sorry DNO but what “she went to a african lady and they gave her a tea to make it tight …. wooosh!!!!!!!!

  28. DIVINE
    November 23, 2011

    sorry but in the first place you should never lie to him,but u should tell him the truth now ,if he loves u he will understand u and give u another chance.

  29. boney
    November 23, 2011

    My dear young lady hope you are enjoying your trip to NY, now your boyfriend is going to find out that you are not a virgin, so i am going totell you what to do go to jollys and buy some allum, onece you wahs with that it make every thing smaler and tighter he will never suspect, You dont want him to find out that what you was saving for him on your wedding night is what you was selling to pay for the weedding

  30. lol
    November 23, 2011

    get tested before you give the poor man something…that mayb why he want a virgin.

  31. D
    November 23, 2011

    Sorry missy we can’t help you. None of us who commented can give you your virginity back. So it’s time for you to fess up.

  32. Star
    November 23, 2011

    You lost is already! Just tell him that and if he really loves you he will stay and never go on a website for advice…listen to yourself

  33. Dutchside Diva
    November 23, 2011

    Please child!! He will not know the difference unless u open like a well whichj at your age I highly doubt that your muscle have lapsed that ,uch. At this age your muscles are able to retract themselves and furthermore not all virgins bleed..so if all he will be looking for is for you to bleed then he really inexperienced!!

  34. true
    November 23, 2011

    wash it with detol..LMAO

    • skinncess
      November 26, 2011

      what? look kicks, darling< no amount of washing will help you< BUT if you ask him why its important for him to have a virgin bride, you are better equipped to tell him now or not….but i think if he loves you, he will surely forgive you.

  35. hmmm
    November 23, 2011

    you can have your hymen replaced… by surgery… good luck… but honesty would have been the best policy… sorry

    • Topgun
      November 23, 2011

      blue soap and sea water..make it tighter :)

    • skinncess
      November 26, 2011

      Dr. F doing it , so try him nuh! seriously

  36. Mrs. Claus
    November 23, 2011

    Zor pas las parlay sort…This is such a joke…whatever man!!!

  37. DR. LOVE
    November 23, 2011

    Dear Young Lady

    DO not destroy your future by concealing your LIE. Please go ahead and tell your Fiance that before you met him you had a few sexual encounters and that you are not a VIRGIN. I believe that he will understand that. He too may very well not be a VIRGIN. He may have had sexual encounters as well. By the way it is well known that most young people these days are involved in one or more sexual practices including sexual intercourse.

    If your fiance genuinely loves you, he will understand. I used to want a virgin but i ended with a woman who had a child. The world is large and yet small.

    Now even if you drank the African potion to get tight… once that hard dick big or small penetrates you begin to be naturally lubricated and the cat will open up again. The difference is there will be no hymen to rupture to indicate you are a virgin because in your first of several sexual intercourse you have had…. it ruptured and you lost your virginity. So please tell your fiance that you no longer a virgin because dick already snatched that pussy.
    Good luck and don’t lie again or else it will become habitual and might just destroy that package which you now happy to have… :wink:

  38. thomas
    November 23, 2011

    love concar all tell him the truth

  39. Lily
    November 22, 2011

    I could understand if it is that u maybe had 1 or maybe even 2 partners maybe u could have still passed for a virgin. Ive had 2 partners and sex is still uncomfortable.But how in the world u had numerous partners and u still want to pass for a virgin. well just tell the guy the truth your the one who put urself in that situation, plus u guys have only been together for 6months dont u think u should get to knew each other better because obviously he doesn’t know u.

    • Anonymous
      December 12, 2011

      I agree with you Lily. She has had to many partners.

  40. Anonymous
    November 22, 2011

    if he love u .. he will forgive u no matter what, love is powerful

    • Dominican
      November 23, 2011

      That is not true

  41. shame 2
    November 22, 2011

    Hope you are not owing none of those guys anything because they just might show up on that day, or better yet hope one of them is not the BEST MAN…Ha Ha Ha

  42. shame 2
    November 22, 2011

    Man I think you should check your merchandise before you buy. What they say again, good things come in small packages…Look out man this one is in a big white bag.

  43. shame
    November 22, 2011

    To be honest I never know that virginty grow back….If there was a tea baby all over great grand, grand, and mothers would be drinking it like it was going out of style.
    It burst already, the damage is done..stop fooling the man. What is he a batty man or wat

    • true
      November 23, 2011

      LMAO, ya I think “semacoutra” or “basalic” will do the trick so try it and let us know

  44. GAL
    November 22, 2011

    WHY GO TO BELLA. YOU SHOULD TELL HIM THE
    TRUTH FORM THE BEGINNING. BEST OF LUCK WHEN
    YOU TELL HIM.

  45. may
    November 22, 2011

    HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY IN LIFE, ONE
    SHOULD NEVER STARTS A RELATIONSHIP WITH LIES.
    YOU SHOULD TELL HIM THE TRUTH IF HE LOVES
    HE’LL ACCEPT YOUR BAGGAGE. GOOD LUCK WHEN YOU
    TELL HIM YOU A NOT A VIRGIN

  46. lover boy
    November 22, 2011

    Baby girl, you’ve got a few choices here. You can tell him you are a virgin because you’ve never had sex with men but you’ve experimented with vibrators and didos. You’re in NY shopping for a wedding I suggest you take that dress money and have a hymen repair surgery…he won’t know the difference cause you’ll be tight and still bleed like it’s your first time. Or, you can tell him the truth and see what happens. If you do not want to tell him the truth then I suggest you go with option one.

  47. Country Girl.......
    November 22, 2011

    Bella you like to let people cou-nai you. wai papa…. you kept the said village hidden. but in a small village! if any young girl goes to New York to buy her wedding dress/shoes you should know that is head line…..so you sold her out right there, and the African lady BS…tells that is made up…..you should have told her to wash with savon bleue…

    Girl friend being a virgin, has nothing what so ever to do with the size of your puss…

  48. yes
    November 22, 2011

    hay go by Nyerere @ Vampire Tattoo, Body Piercing and Spiritual Supply Studio and get your self some p tightener u had to go by african then stupes…
    but hope it all works out 4 u

  49. truth
    November 22, 2011

    tell the truth it will set u free it hurting you that,s why you wrote Bella if he really love you that should not make him hate you if your marriage do work is your fault because u lied for no reason stop the lying see how far u will reach in life

  50. weh papa
    November 22, 2011

    girl you don’t need to spend money on ketchup, surgery, obeah and hurt his heart with the truth all you do is give that p***y a good soak in the sea. problem solved!

  51. Anonymous
    November 22, 2011

    baby please come with the truth ignore all the negative comments and tell your fiance the truth if he really love u he would be upset with u for lying but after everything will be okay is not like u cheat that was in your past
    u should not lie if anything go wrong i blame you that,s all your fault ask him for forgiveness for lying to him

  52. Voice od Reason
    November 22, 2011

    Just come clean sweety becuase its not like u cheated on him . It was before u met him and if he truly loves you he will accept it. Its not a big deal. Just dont tell him how many uve really had..i see u mention numerous keep it to a minimum. Good luck!!!!

  53. hot peper
    November 22, 2011

    whats new you ar not the first and you will not be the last.

  54. Anonymous
    November 22, 2011

    its best u tell him d truth before its to late!! :-D

  55. sad
    November 22, 2011

    have a reconstruction surgery whosh………what a joke how much did you pay that african woman….whosh hehe

  56. Rivers
    November 22, 2011

    use some tooth ache cream and rub the hole to numb it, then stitch it up with a needle and thread leaving a tiny opening. get your man drunk on the wedding night so he will not know. it worked for me and i am married for 14 years. My husband never will know the truth and we tight.

    • fathead
      November 22, 2011

      GOOD FOR UR HUSBAND TO READ DE STORY. PUT 2 AND 4 TOGETHER……

    • boss
      November 22, 2011

      woman u bad lol yes i

    • joe
      November 22, 2011

      lolllllllll.u killing me with your remedy .we all no that, that never harpen .

      • Mrs. Claus
        November 23, 2011

        That’s exactly what I saying…wanted to give you 10 thumbs up…LOL…LOL

    • November 25, 2011

      AWA WI….U senin de girl to injure herself

  57. Lol!
    November 22, 2011

    Two words Hun: kegel exercises. :wink:

    • Anonymous
      November 25, 2011

      lol lol quint it my girl

  58. Rivers
    November 22, 2011

    on your wedding night,use some crazy glue and glue that hole tight. leave a tiny opening so he can squeeze in. make sure yo squirt some ketchup inside before he gets in.

    • DAT U HEAR WI
      November 22, 2011

      u have sum mental problem man give d gurl gd advice. wappen d man doe have taste buds den stupes

    • November 25, 2011

      ummmmm….hello?? yeast infection!!! ginal infections, death! u pple are crazy!

  59. Anonymous
    November 22, 2011

    :lol: i cry so much i laught

  60. thomas
    November 22, 2011

    All I can tell you is go and tell your man the truth and if he love you enought he will for give you,because a marriage on lie will never be a happy one

  61. Anonymous
    November 22, 2011

    I thing you should sit with your man and tell him the truth before some-one else come and tell him because a relationship base on lie will never be a happy one,when you tell him is up to him to know if he can handle the truth or not……….good luck :lol:

  62. Anonymous
    November 22, 2011

    AS I SEE IT

    GIRL JUST TELL THAT TO HIM
    I LOST MY VIRGIN JUMPING DOWN FROM A
    TREE OF MANGO.
    HE IS SO STUPID HE WILL BELIVE YOU
    BECAUSE YOU DONT HAVE SEX TO LOOSE YOUR
    VIRGIN,
    I WOULD NEVER TELL A WOMAN THAT WE WILL LEAVE THAT
    FOR THE SPECIAL NITE WE WOULD HAVE TO HAVE SEX BEFORE AND IF YOU R A VIRGIN I WOULD KNOW
    THEN I WOULD WASTE NO TIME TO ASK YOU TO MERRY ME VIRGIN OR NOT IF I LOVE YOU I WOULD STILL ASK TO GET MARRIED

  63. Rivers
    November 22, 2011

    There are more important things in the world than being a virgin.

    • rico
      November 22, 2011

      u speaking like u have something against virgins…a virgin take ur man???????

    • stups
      November 23, 2011

      lol really?
      that was so funny
      I would love to hear what else is important

  64. coco
    November 22, 2011

    I hope that fiance is reading that article.my god da is so small I bet u there r ppl that no who u r and yur posting an article like that? I wonder why some ppl don’t think b 4 they do certain things.

    • Mrs. Claus
      November 23, 2011

      Coco so you believe that sh** then…I’m sure someone is in a similar situation and a man somewhere in D.A is wondering if is his woman that post that..but that’s fiction child…

  65. Truth
    November 22, 2011

    He must find out! From you, one of the many many men you’ve been with for $ or somebody that knows you. Just speak the TRUTH. Unless that man stupid, you’ll have to take that tightening pill for a good 3 months, because it takes puss that long to adjust to tole… especially virgin puss. Sout!!! lol

  66. big fat sookooyan
    November 22, 2011

    girl, while you in NY go to a haitian store and buy a powder call Borasol, wash the vagina with it three times a day. It will make you real tight. I know a girl who used Borasol to wash her vagina and her new boyfriend was so glad that he found a tight girlfriend, that when she broke up with him for another man, he committed suicide all in the name of a tight hole. So good luck.

    • mouth of the south
      November 22, 2011

      u sure it wasnt the borasol given by the ‘haitian’ that caused the suicide….

  67. lol...
    November 22, 2011

    awa mamzelle sot…virginity is the last thing i think any woman should lie about , free up ur meditation chick ….u not a virgin so what in this day and age that doesn’t make u any less of a woman , u not no arab or indian where they might stone u ….we in the western world , be brave and accept ur sexuality…that is also sexy about a woman…be grown up about it…..but u should have never lied in the first place…not the virgin thing that have u , is ur lying tongue that have u in this predicament

  68. Wosh
    November 22, 2011

    Joke of the year, cant stop laughing, Well just have an emergency fall on a flight of stairs on you A**, but first do the blood thing and boom, there goes the virgin. LOL

  69. Jossie
    November 22, 2011

    Lmmo,, girl u see how it not good to lie, anyway that happen to a friend and she told the man that she was raped as a child,and she was ashamed to tell him.she never realy had sex with another man so to her she is still a virgin.he will bye that one 4 sure.ha ha ha

  70. Anonymous
    November 22, 2011

    Girl dog say what is yours is yours. Tell the man self that you not one. If he really loves you he will stay. If he goes “chou poul” you will get a sweeter one.

    • Cock and Screw
      November 25, 2011

      But her ting sour, how she getting a man sweeter there? She weezay, that ting, her fing maybe smelling fresh wee, so much man board dat! :lol:

      • November 25, 2011

        how u so sure?stop being judgemental…..gosh!

  71. Wait A Minute
    November 22, 2011

    That man wel stupid papa. Any man in DA (or anywhere in the Caribbean for that matter) in this day and age who believe a 22 year old when she say she is a virgin is a damn FOOL!!!

    • becky
      November 22, 2011

      nonsense!!!! i am a virgin and i am 25..so ur point is??????????????

      • ya right
        November 23, 2011

        and my mother and grandma is virgin too

      • You lying Becky
        November 25, 2011

        Becky you lying, you’re not a virgin, never was and never will be. :lol:

  72. Chris
    November 22, 2011

    This story is disgusting! And the response are double disgusting! SMH!!

    Why would you post a story like that to Bella, knowing the whole world and even your fiance might read it? Is this even true? Your story has alot of holes in it.

  73. Anonymous
    November 22, 2011

    The best thing to do is to come out with the truth before on yoour wedding nite it will be your last nite with him.if you and him love each other it will stand whatever there is to come

  74. PHILLIS
    November 22, 2011

    girl don’t listen to all these stupid advices,while you are here in New YORK
    go a doctor to do surgery, it is called
    Lasar Vaginoplasty.

  75. Dominican
    November 22, 2011

    I hope you plan to live in Timbuktu after you married becasue one of the “numerous men” with which you have had sexual encounters bound to show up one day. No tightness going to fix that.

  76. NSJ
    November 22, 2011

    My girl unless he or one of those other men that u already slept with can prove u had sex – either by video or by a child deny ever having sex, not all women have hymen for there to be blood during sex. Not all men big enough to make a woman feel pain and u can fake that it hurts. No blood or hymen does not mean that u had sex – Teach u man from now that u can not have sex and there can be no blood. No need to fake blood thats not a sign of virginity – just dont take no stupid tea once ur virginity gone its gone for good. Even the surgery that they claim replaces ur hymen does not give u ur virginity back, teh first time can never come back again. But that was funny I really want to know how old u r to believe that if u drink a tea u can get tight as a virgin again.

  77. fatty batty
    November 22, 2011

    she at virgin lane nice one.

  78. fatty batty
    November 22, 2011

    vv @well well look sweet advice you try it already man.

  79. sorry
    November 22, 2011

    sweetheart; no one is perfect! u shud not hv lied to him! tell him the truth before it is too late! if he truly loves u then he will overlook things! get it off ur concience! The reason why u wrote this letter is because u needed some good advise! u will regret not telling him and wished u had! come clean! blessings! this is in ur hands! turn it around!

  80. pROUD
    November 22, 2011

    oh bella, your made-up stories are so hilarious! hahaha

    • me
      November 24, 2011

      i totally agree..

  81. CAC
    November 22, 2011

    It’s been known that in some cultures, especially the Islamic cultures, where virginity is highly regarded that women have visited doctors to have their hymen stitched back. The hymen would then rupture a second time when sex occurs. I am not telling you to do this but problem with lying is that one has to keep lying to stay ahead. And, when you have a lapse in memory things can gey ugly. It’s better to come clean and face the music now than then.

  82. Robin
    November 22, 2011

    This story is just what it is…a load of crap. I do not believe one word of it.

    • Reader
      November 22, 2011

      Who cares? Stupess!

  83. Pangirl
    November 22, 2011

    On your wedding night when he find out he entered a lake, just tell him, he kept missing the hole. You SORT!!!! ROFT. :lol:

  84. November 22, 2011

    Its better if you tell him the truth before you marry this man,He have a right to no,Please be honest with yourself to ,So you can sleep well at nights,If he love you as he say,He will forgive you,pray to god for help,Good luck in telling him the truth.

  85. Abu Sulayman
    November 22, 2011

    In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

    Firstly young lady, the real way out of this situation is knowledge and fear of Allah (Glory be to Him the Most High). I advise you to refer to http://www.whyislam.org. Many young women have been reduced to play things, they lack morals and honor because they lack gnosis of Allah (swt).

    Secondly, you need to come clean not just with this man who is a mere human being but with your Lord. Naturally, this knowledge is very important for this man to know. It is unfair for a marriage between the both of you to be built on deception. Also, before this man got involved with you, he should have done a background check first.

    Secondly, I think before you even start planning for wedding you should have taken care of this issue first. What if the relationship doesn’t work out? You would have wasted money on this trip, clothes and other expenses. Planning for a wedding involves time and money in this country.

    Thirdly, when you get married and your fiance is placed in a situation where he cannot give you what you want, are you going to cheat on his head? You’ve lied before so what makes you certain you wouldn’t lie again especially for major crimes like cheating for example?

    In conclusion, you have not handled this situation like a mature 22 year old. The first reason is, you lacked foresight regarding the implications of telling this serious lie. Secondly, instead of coming clean about this lie hanging over your head for so long, you are in New York buying dress etc. for wedding. This tells that you are not ready for the test and trials of marriage. Unless you do not seek serious counseling this marriage will crash before it takes off.

    • Anonymous
      November 24, 2011

      you alone that have to comment man.

    • shy
      November 24, 2011

      You alone that have to comment man, with your allah business.

      • Abu Sulayman
        November 26, 2011

        Why is your comment so unintelligent? Do you know who Allah is? The very creator that even the fishes glorify Him. The one who created the very fingers you are using to say silly things to others.

  86. Shameless
    November 22, 2011

    Girl you don mess up so keep you mouth shut and take the ring. IF he suspects on the wedding you doh have a hymen in the koochie just tell him like the lady in Pte.Soufriere did: Ou sortie eah wass gwan tou (U come from a family with big holes) 8)

    • HAHAHAAHA
      November 22, 2011

      ROTFLMFAO AND ROTFLMFAO AGAIN!!!! HAHAHAHAAHAHA LMFAOOo

  87. nat
    November 22, 2011

    Even if you do escape all of that hymen tearing thing on the wedding night. What about all the guys you slept with and all their friends who knew that they hit it. People talk! What about your soon to be husband padnas they could find out from a friend of a friend.
    Man talk more than woman!

    Senario: fiance padna with his padnas.

    Padnas of fiance padna:” aye boi that ting your boy marry there, you doe hearing jack smith used to mash that up after work every friday just for that to get a top up and a shoe.”. That ting was wild in the bed etc..

    Bam your husband find out!

    Tell the truth.

  88. bee
    November 22, 2011
  89. LMAO
    November 22, 2011

    One word —-SORT! :lol: :mrgreen:

  90. GO FIGURE
    November 22, 2011

    Good one! It had me laughing and all those comments. You people are not easy. Well, Confused, all I can tell you is when that day comes and he complains or asks that question, just tell him that his “Puny” is too small that’s why. Good luck!

    • seasoning pepper
      November 22, 2011

      :-D :lol: :lol: :mrgreen:

  91. November 22, 2011

    SIGH SIGH …THANKS ALOT FOR PASSING THIS INFORMATION FOR THOSE WHO TAKE A PLEASE IN LAUGHING AT PEOPLES SORRY.
    MOST PEOPLE THINK THAT ABSENCE OF HYMEN IS = TO SEX…DAFT PEOPLE.

  92. November 22, 2011

    GO TO A DOCTOR ASK HIM TO SEW BACK YOUR HYMEN FOR YOU THAT WILL PUT EVERYTHING STRAIGHT ,DO NOT TELL HIM ANY THING AT ALL BECAUSE YOU WILL BE LOOKED UPON AS A LIAR .DO NOT TELL ANY ONE THAT YOU A GOING TO HAVE THIS SURGERY ;MAKE HASTE BEFORE THE WEDDING.MANY ARABIAN AND INDIAN LADIES DO IT ;BUT EUROPEANS ALSO .I AM FROM DOMINICA I DID THE SAME THING ALSO AFTER MY FIRST BOY FRIEND TURN HIS BACK ON ME FOR AN ASIAN GIRL ;BUT THANKS GOD WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND ,THAT ASIAN GIRL TOOK ALL HIS MONEY AND LEFT HIM SHORTLY AFTER . HE IS NOW MENTALLY ILL SINCE THEN.WHY NOT GIVE IT A TRY?GO AND SEE A DOCTOR ITS NOT TOO LATE.GOOD LUCK.NO ONE IS PERFECT. GIVE IT A GO.

  93. VV
    November 22, 2011

    Only if you knew how to contract the walls of your virgina you could close your p****** so tight that the smallest d***k would have trouble entering, you in new york? get a fake blood pack and on the wedding night, put it close to the bed, make sure all light are off, use only candles,before you get into bed conceal it in the palm of your hands, make alot of fuss when he penetrating like as if you in alot of pain as soon as he goes all the way in scream and push him off, now put your hands between your legs bursting the fake blood pack. BOOOM VIRGINITY. Case Closed.

    • village name wheld
      November 22, 2011

      whoayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! … awa fweh. zor pa bon lmfaoooo hahahaha

  94. Reader
    November 22, 2011

    Dear Bella killed me today!! Lmao! All you have me bawling in dem people office. Eh bien, dominique chaud. Got to say, these comments are priceless! rotfl

  95. Jacky chan
    November 22, 2011

    Time to invest or invent a battery operated Kookuloox tightener. Chi ching

    • village name wheld
      November 22, 2011

      HAHAHAHAAH!!!! shate lmao

  96. sigh
    November 22, 2011

    uhm you do know not all virgins have a hymen right?. for 1. Some girls are born without a hymen; 2. A hymen can tear naturally when a girl plays sports or engages in any physical activity; 3. A hymen can surely be broken by the use of tampons;. So just tell mister you are a virgin. Most Dca man coocoo for coco puffs anyways

  97. Truth
    November 22, 2011

    That Delilah self… poor Samson lol! These days a woman can put chickens blood in small bag and insert it in the “ting” before they have sex to make the man think they’re virgins. It’s totally believable. If he sout enuff to believe you then its him. He caught a Blow fish disguised as a Dolphin instead of throwing it back to the bottom where it stay he bringing it up to play. Love is blind not stupid. The sad part is there are so many well deserving (non-sexual encounters with numerous men having) young ladies out there that would be happy with that man. SMH

    • Grey popon
      November 22, 2011

      Truth why don’t you just stay off. You are so dry , always vague and basically say nothing- Troll. get with the program

      • Anonymous
        November 22, 2011

        Thanks Grey! Geez.

      • Truth
        November 22, 2011

        Grey popo… its not my fault you sout and can’t understand shit.

    • VV
      November 23, 2011

      Go and get all own damn man, right away it have somebody else that would be happy with him. You doh know if the man have aids, is so all you does ceth there you know

  98. laughing cow
    November 22, 2011

    Girl all u hv to do is start taking the PILL; practice KEGAL nonestop every day!
    Few days b4 ur wedding stop the pill; period must come 4 days after! Don’t tell him u hv period. On wedding night act like a virgin! Voila… Blood stained sheets! (It worked for me and 2 of my friends)

    • Anonymous
      November 22, 2011

      That’s hilarious!!!

  99. investigation made
    November 22, 2011

    doh try dat, tell the man, i know of a woman from a village in the north that told her pastor fiance that she was a virgin, on the night of the wedding she used ketchup to fool him, it worked but later he found out and after giving her two children, one is retarded, he left her saying he dont love her, he will never trust her; she ended up divorcing him, made a chile for another guy and right now is married to another tebeh she could fool with more lies, so please be careful, comout with the truth if your love you man, if he loves you he will understand

    • Wiser than ever
      November 22, 2011

      Right on target, i know just who

      • tantie
        November 22, 2011

        i kno who too:!!

  100. shame
    November 22, 2011

    I hope this guy is checking out DNO to figure it out. If you are reading this man, how many virgins are in new york looking for a dress? Thats a dead give away. Girl come clean and see what happens, this lie is only going to lead to cheating when you are married. You —- in the pass and you will do it again. Bad habbits are hard to break.

  101. Hehehehehehee
    November 22, 2011

    All you have to do is act like it hurting a lot the first time allu do it…since he has not done it before he shouldn’t know the difference.
    And next time get a real problem hehehehehehehe

  102. fatty batty
    November 22, 2011

    my girl u the best tea bring back the virgin wow thanks for the laugh well better come clean now before u tie the knot.he deserve to know the truth.

  103. village name wheld
    November 22, 2011

    HOWEVER,

    “I AM IN NEW YORK FOR A WEEK PICKING UP MY WEDDING DRESS” ahben … dear virginity liar, I AGREE, I didn’t know u would tell that to the guy. However, u just made the african make money on you. That’s a jinx! “tight like a virgin” …stueps

    • real possie
      November 22, 2011

      guess u tried it and it did not work that is so funny i hope your man look over your shoulder while u posting so he will know what u tried on him. LOL

      • village name wheld
        November 22, 2011

        your man? …
        Read over my comment and read from the name and continue.. If you can comprehend you will realise I am not a woman, but I realize I know who that is! lol Sot! Saying its a jinx from the african doesn’t mean a person tried it. Every SMART person knows that once you lose your virgin, its lost forever! Thats why I told her its a jinx
        So all u giving pple maypwi on DNO and don’t know what all you typing.

      • Anonymous
        November 25, 2011

        so if you know who what village she from?

  104. Brown Sugar
    November 22, 2011

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA…..What lying about your virginity profit you in the end….It will only cause more heartaches and when he does find out he is never going to trust you..look all now you should be enjoying your shopping spree in NY you are worried Trust is like a piece of paper once crushed it can never be the same again..The truth will set you free no matter how hard it maybe…

  105. Jacky chan
    November 22, 2011

    Here is my advise While you in New York (1) pick up some of the small packs of ketchup at those fast food joint McDonalds , Burger King etc(2) Go to canal street China town and ask for a Chinese man name Kul Wen . I’ll tell you why. On the night of the honey moon scream like you never scream before and just when my boy about unload pop a few of the Ketchup bags so you can create a bloody scene. In China town Kul wen will give you a rubbing stone for your groom that when he apply that to his jack hammer he will go numb.
    Case close life is a dream until fellas start coming out of the woodwork like them women of Tiger Woods and those Dominica Passports.

    • Kul Pipe
      November 22, 2011

      :) :) :) :mrgreen: I am LMAO – a Chinese man name Kul Wen – yes I.

  106. lovr
    November 22, 2011

    I can help you it do not have to be a lie. The hymin AKA Virginity is a piece of flesh i do not know how i can contact you but it can easy be restored concern female.

    • VV
      November 22, 2011

      you know, you just talking a load of bull, restored? once it ruptures that’s it, you acting like is a peice of flesh that hanging there waiting to put mended LMAO

  107. real possie
    November 22, 2011

    Well i blame him cause me i dont go for that when we married thing guess he never heard of buying jumbi in a bag on the other hand get some washing blue that will tighten it up too on your wedding night keep a towell close when it get to wet just dry it up so he dont fall into that ocean u have there.

  108. Anonymous
    November 22, 2011

    lol, my girl from now on start bathing with blue soap and dettol ehh, by the time your honeymoon comes around you well tight. make sure you say iii when he enters. :-D :-D :-D :-D

    • weh
      November 22, 2011

      ha ha i was thinking the same………..they say lime water or vinegar helps too so get a barrel of vinegar ……….any ways the only way he will not know is if he is a mongol.
      Any way u can also get him drunk and make him pass in de back door instead of the front door that might do the trick……….lol….i saw it on jerry springer once

      • haha
        January 23, 2012

        wat if she nt a virgin in the back door either?

  109. T. Winston
    November 22, 2011

    Tell the man If he accepts you then it’s all good
    Better tell him now than trick him and be embarrassed later because unless the marriage night occurs while you have your period that man will know you not a virgin

    • Anonymous
      November 22, 2011

      Just tell de man that he misunderstood you when you told him that you were from VIRGIN LANE!!!!! :oops:

      • VV
        November 22, 2011

        WOYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY that one take me, i from Virgin Lane too

      • haha
        November 22, 2011

        Hahahahahahahahahaha….thats the BEST!….Talking bout virgin lane!!…hehehehehe

      • ACJ
        November 22, 2011

        LOLOLOLOLOLOL…thats a good one.. :mrgreen: :lol:

      • Not4gay
        November 22, 2011

        Well put :-P

  110. Jah know
    November 22, 2011

    my girl u had me screaming down de place wii. girl u mad funny! just tell de man u had sex already. is not like is de world dat end nuh. u too like to lie. come clean

  111. James
    November 22, 2011

    Once virgin gone its gone for good dont matter how tight it get! Thats too funny and he will finally find out you lied to him cause when a virgin have sex there is blood!

    • Truth
      November 22, 2011

      That’s Delilah self… poor Samson lol! These days a woman can put chickens blood in small bag and insert it in the “ting” before they have sex to make the man think they’re virgins. It’s totally believable. If he sout enuff to believe you then its him. He caught a Blow fish disguised as a Dolphin instead of throwing it back to the bottom where it stay he bringing it up to play. Love is blind not stupid. The sad part is there are so many well deserving (non-sexual encounters with numerous men having) young ladies out there that would be happy with that man. SMH

    • NSJ
      November 22, 2011

      It is not always the case that there is blood. This depends on whether or not the person was born with their Hymen. This is what ruptures and causes the bleeding. Some women are not born with it or may have lost theirs when they were a child in some manner because some rupture very easily and some not so easy. Either way I agree once the virgin gone its gone there is no tea to fix it unless she has one of them surgery to get a replacement hymen.

  112. Tightness
    November 22, 2011

    Now that just made my day. My girl thanks for the hearty laugh … had people wondering if I was crazy laughing so loudly.

    On another note, I need that tea cause I know some not-so-virgin girls I can make a good buck off.

  113. Sayodityodit
    November 22, 2011

    lol. I had a good laugh with that one.

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