I have been in and out of relationships for a while then at the age of 19 made my decision of settle down.
I fell in love with a wealthy young but yet still hard working young man. For two years I was living out of state then I made the bold decision of moving back home to be with him. I left behind my work and everything I already had to start all fresh again.
We were the prefect couple, well at least that is what I thought, until he cheated on me. Well he said it was a one night thing.
The young lady is pregnant but he has not come to me to say anything. There are rumors on the streets. I have given him five months to come to me and he still hasn’t mention anything to me.
I have moved out of his home and on my own but the other night he came to my home and told me he knows he hurt me and he can not forgive him self and “it’s nothing that we were going through that caused him to go out and cheat.” He said he is sorry and he couldn’t have faced me and tell me the truth when I asked him.
Now the young lady has moved in with him but he still provide my every need but what stresses me is the fact that he don’t want people to know we still dealing.
What should I do?
Dear Need Answers,
There is a very simple solution to this. Tell the guy to get out of your face. You made too many sacrifices for this guy and in the end he cheated on you. Then he has the audacity to come to you place and tell you that he is sorry?
How can he really be sorry when the other young lady has moved in with him? Additionally he want to keep the ‘relationship’ between you two a secret?
Don’t let yourself be used in that way. Tell him that you don’t need anything from him and move on with your life. There are many other young men out there and you should think of moving on.
It always baffles me why SOME women allow themselves to be treated in that way!
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