My father hates every man I ever introduced him to. I’m beginning to think my father wants me to die single. I am 29 for crying out aloud and the man has never ever not even once liked my boyfriends.
All because of him I had to dump about three potential husbands. Now I have this guy Bella who loves me and asked me to marry him. He is a police officer. And when I introduced him to our family last week, my father had the guts to tell me never marry a police officer or bus driver or government minister.
The man was so ashamed he just bowed his head after my father treated him like that in front of the whole family.
I asked my father how am I supposed to have a life and start a family when he rejects every man who is interested in me? He said no one will ever be good enough for his daughter.
My father thinks I am still his little girl and I can’t understand that at all.
I think my father’s fear is being alone. Because my mom passed a few years ago and I am their only child.
But I tried to explain that being married won’t mean I will neglect him.
Bella I can’t manage that mess so I am moving out. Too bad for my father.
Hello Frustrated Daughter,
Indeed your situation seems very frustrating and I don’t blame you if you want to leave that environment.
Your dad needs to understand that you are now and adult and must move on in that direction.
You need to have your own life, your husband, your family.
He isn’t being fair to you at all by trying to keep you hostage because of his own fears.
Moving out might be a good move since staying under the same roof with him may result in your further unhappiness.
Bite the bullet. Let him know his actions are pushing you away. Sometimes distance can change people.
If you are moving out, then move out. Eventually, your father will come around. And if he doesn’t, then it means he does not understand the true essence of loving his daughter.